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That’s what I kinda felt like, just sometimes talking with your friends isn’t enough, I wanted to sit down and exstenively talk about my problem…but it’s like they don’t have time…plus I seem really pathetic when i ask or talk about my problem, so I don’t want them to think I’m pathetic…probably to late for that though…

You are not a loser, I recomend you go get a job to keep your mind off of it, meet new people and learn how to be social again.

Nikki’s words of wisdom:
Boys are poopy.

uunngghh!…….WOW!…….yer cute…….okay, now that that’s out of the way..NO yer’ NOT a loser. I don’t have many friends either..only ONE!…him and I worked together on an ambulance for about 2 years. We both have the same warped sense of humor, we both watched eachother’s lives and careers..(through no fault of our own) go down the shitter. He was there when my 16 year marriage went FLOP and I attempted suicide. Him and I have smoked many a joint while reviewing bible verses, watching south park, family guy and other weird shows.

I guess I am his only friend as well. we both have sen MUCH suffering, (other people’s and our own)….we never had childhoods. I guess we just instinctively know when to give eachother room, when to talk, when to shut-up and when to point and laugh at eachother…….so no..don’t feel like a loser..”kay?”…..

What’s that old saying about life being all hills and valleys? Your at a low ebb right now but it will pass. Give yourself credit for learning from your experience. While in a relationship you cut yourself off from others now it’s time to get out into the world and start living again. Your an attractive and intelligent woman and I’m sure you’ll do just fine.

Don’t get your boyfriend back just because you are feeling lonely . I think it is time for you for you to make really good friends by joining new group activity or go to the gym or go for reading at a public library , you can meet really nice people there .

if i lived where you lived i’d totally be your friend =) but i don’t so, my advice would be go somewhere that you think you could find other people like yourself to connect with, coffee shops, local band concerts, bars, the mall, the park, where ever….make a new friend…..i know i could never have enough friends

im sorry about that but if i told you that i know how you feel then i would be lieing. i am lucky to still have the friends that i do have. you’ll work it out. you seem very strong. just go out and try to make new friends

crackthatfluffywhip wrote:
You are not a loser, I recomend you go get a job to keep your mind off of it, meet new people and learn how to be social again.

Go Too New Places Meet People, Talk To Your old friends,Your Not A Loser also btw

I know what you mean, but you’re not a loser. Sometimes when you’re with someone for a while you lose contact with some of your friends because you end up spending so much time with the guy you’re with. Don’t worry though, try talking to some people you used to hang out with and see what they’re up to…or get a new job, that is a good way to meet new people. Don’t get back with your ex because you’re lonely though, he doesnt sound like he deserves ya in the first place!

Wow, and i think i have problems. Trust me your not a loser, I feel so pathetic sometimes and like a loser but then i realise everyone needs some help sometimes, and thats what were all doing on this site, i recomend getting out and doing something new and exciting, set yourself a goal like saving enough money to visit your friend,
stop listening to all those sad tunes that remind you of your own lonleynes and realise you dont need a man to lean on, you are your own independant woman and can stand up and be counted…you’ll soon find the right kind of men flocking to ya.

wow i should listen to my own advice, maybe deep down i already know the solution to my problems

Once you get a job, just talk to everyone there, it will come out much better then you think.

I agree with what bodddyscrubb said.. it’s not that people don’t like your personality and don’t hang out with you or talk to to you often because of that. For a while you concentrated only on your relationship with your boyfriend, and not on maintaining a good relationship with your friends, so it’s difficult for things to go back to normal immediately after such a long gap. It will take a little more time for you and your friends to get used to each other again, and in the meantime, I’m sure it would help a lot if you joined a group activity that you’re interested in. That way you can meet people with whom you share a similar interest, and make some really good friends. And you aren’t a loser!

you need to find your passion and use your spirit and energy to capture the good in you which will foster strength and independance.