work help: i self harm and would like to stop but it doesn’t work every time i try i dont know what to do. - Help.com

the thing to do is to admit to your friends and family, and keep away from the things you harm yourself with

some of my friends know

Well, personally, I was helped by meds. Talking with my friends, and eventually a therapist, helped too, but my main problem was a chemical one. Self-harm is often a small, though truly frightening, part of the big picture.
I would urge you to keep it to a minimum, though. It may be hard to stop completely. I know that I was pretty much addicted to the pain I caused myself, and that eventually I wasn’t sure why I was doing it, whether it was for my original reasons, or just for the pain itself. That said, how quickly you should stop depends on what you are doing to yourself.

It’s good that some of your friends know. Are they encouraging you to stop?

heres something i wrote a while back, Mittens had some good suggestions

http://help.com/post/82575-i-really-f…

im not emo and ya my friends are helping though it but it’s not that easy.

pizzaho wrote:
Your soo emo

youre soo immature

Well, to hazard a guess, you sound like you may still be in high school. Just from experience, friends are not totally equipped to deal with that sort of stuff at the tender age of 15 or 16. It may be a good idea to call something like 1-800-SUICIDE. IT’s totally free and anonymous, and you can talk to a real person who cares a lot about your well-being. It’s a bit like free therapy without that frightening face-to-face aspect.

i am 16 and my friends are the only people i need to talk to.

Given that other post, and the immaturity of some of the people on here, if you would like to talk on AIM, my s/n is Leythra.

how wold r u Happy_medium

Woops. Well, if they’re busy, or not around, then that would be a good alternative. Something else to consider is that you’ve been talking to your friend thus far, but haven’t stopped yet.

I’m 21 now, and I’m just now ‘getting through’ all of the stuff that you’re describing.

i just told my friends about a week ago

happy_medium08 wrote:
Given that other post, and the immaturity of some of the people on here, if you would like to talk on AIM, my s/n is Leythra.

i hope you didnt think i was saying anything inappropiate, im sorry if i was.

Ah. Sorry. I guess I jumped to conclusions. Personally, I was still doing all sorts of crazy stuff as I talked to my friends, and in a couple of cases, they un-intentionally egged me on.
And no, Queen of Lost Vampyronline, I completely agreed, and in fact applauded a little.

i may cut but i try to talk to my friends. even after i just found out 1 of my friends stopped cutting 1 yr ago. and another just started 2 days before i told her that i did.

anon, uhm.. if you need anyone to talk to, you can shout me anytime, im sorry, i might not be able to write much right now, but i promise ill try and help you. it probably wont help, but im 14, i was self harming before i knew it was dangerous. i could suggest things to do instead, but i think we need to figure out why you self harm.

Hrm. The friend who just started may not be the best person to talk to about this, given that while some people are encouraged that they are not alone, others are eager to ‘catch up.’ The friend who managed to stop, though, is a wonderful place to turn, so long as you pay attention if they tell you that they are not able to handle your problems any better than you can.
Well, in any case, I hope that what I said helps a little. And that whole talking thing is a standing invitation, though I’m not on too much.

i was really trying to tell my friend that cuts that i understand what she’s going through and that i know its not good. she only did it once and was telling me that her family was the reason and that she wasn’t going to do it again and hasnt yet did it again so thats good.

There are generally two kinds of cutters.
There are those (often referred to as “Emo”) who cut themselves visibly, often shallowly, and mainly for attention. They will often call their friends at strange hours of the night, crying for attention. I’m not saying that this sort of cutter isn’t sick, it’s just that they are more danger to themselves in a non-physical way than our second group.
There are also those who don’t really want the attention(also called a statistic) but rather want the pain, feel that they deserve it, or treat it as a sort of purification. This group will often cut themselves deeply in places where no one is likely to see.
They will often struggle internally for months or years before telling anyone, if they ever do. Some grow out of it, some die from it, and still more get through it with professional, familial, or friendly help. These cutters are far more likely to seriously injure themselves before seeking help, and are less likely to accept the help that they seek.

Whichever type you and your friends are (and it is possible to be both from time to time. I personally switched back and forth for years from the age of 12 to pretty much now), I am genuinely concerned for you, and hope that you find a way to get through.

im not emo i dont care if you think that it maybe for whatever reason but i just what to find a way to stop

thats the same for me llllll but also my friends are tryin to help me quit to

if you ever what to talk Anon i here

It’s ok to be Emo, though I didn’t assume that you were. I think exploring why you do it is a good idea, that you should have a designated person to call every single time you get the urge to cut, and that you should work on treating yourself right. You would be amazed how much a walk in a park and a bubble bath can help your state of mind.

happy u there

i do walk and run alot but it helps just not that much.