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why are you trying to punch everyone?

I would say lack of reassurance. I know it’s a cop out, but frankly it takes a lot of self-confidence to to be assured of who you are in the face of all the adverse imagery and misguided misconceptions bandied about. Whether its from your parents growing up, or friends ands family during tough times, I would have to say lack of reassurance that Your a Great person and should be Proud of Yourself. That’s my opinion per request, I’ll be glad to see everyone else’s.

A couple of says ago I posted a question asking what makes so many people desire less than the best. So many people desire far less than what they could have. THis is real close to what I meant, though. So, I also am curious to see replies

To be honest, if someone else had asked the question, I’d have a lengthy reply. There are a hundred thousand things that can cause this inferiority complex, if you could call it that… I’m just wanting to hear what you lot have to say.[/quote]

Maybe you could explain to me what you think after a while if nobody else wants to chew on this.

as i suffer from this condition i believe i am no expert in this subject

“poof and that’s how it’s done”

I really think that it’s society’s fault mostly. Cramming into our collective heads that all beautiful women have huge breasts or are insanely skinny; that all people worth having on your team (work or school) are college graduates or from wealthy families or just fit the previous description; that women with any sense go and find men of higher worth as defined by a higher than average paying job instead of for love or friendship; and that life itself is just a status game in an effort to see how many stupid lab rat-like people try to beat each other to the top only to find out that once you get there it’s no jar of honey either.

I’m smart, I’m talented, I think I’m beautiful and the second I fall in love with “the one” I will have him and live out my “smarter than 95% of America” life and die happy.

That was interesteing, but seemed to be very cynical and jaded, albeit it was…good?

My views are unlike everyone else’s. You were asking for diversity were you not?

we all have our secrets sometimes it hurts

Love Biscuit please don’t think I’m being judgemental, I just thought you had a strong opinion, nothing more, and I did enjoy reading it, and I’m sure StephenZuckerman was asking for diversity,….so yeah, your are definately on point.

i know many people who have seemed look fine to me. thing is, i used to think they thought they were attractive and everything but when i asked them what they thought of themselves it was totally different to what i saw. i found it surprising.

This conversation reminds me of the saying “that beauty comes from within”. Eventhough a lot of people judge attractiveness by physical appearance, it does not necessarily mean that the person feels/believes that they are attractive internally. I think that we tend to judge attractiveness by the physical appearance because is more tangible. We often ignore the intangible because we cannot see it therefore, may sometimes ignore that person’s inner life.

With regards to that, given that individuals have such divergent taste, shouldn’t that mean that we should have a medley of different standards of beauty (physically speaking) that would satisfy most?

No one has ever made me feel worthy. Thats my answer.

Well, not entirely true. But the people who have made me feel worthless far outnumber the ones who have tried to make me feel worthy.