Parent help: ok i am stressed my parents are reel close to getting a divoce - Help.com

just relax.
my parents got divorced a cou[ple of years ago to.and really its not as bad as you think.
and as far as your mom saying she doesnt want you,then say’ **** you’ right back cuz ur better then her anyway right?
just remember who you really have around you that will always be there and look to them for support

well i took to my dad like early last year b/c we get along but it seems my mom is jelouse of my dad and i’s relationship
i dnt think its tht i am worried about the divorce but i think its wrong about my self wanting them to get divorced

nah dont worry bout that k? seriously sometimes itsa natural not to want your parents to be together if they dont like each other
i mean really i did the same thing and just clung to my dad.because when your parents get divorced you really do have to choose sides i suppose.
if your worried about hurting your moms feelings just explain how childish she is acting.

you said there is stress,we all say things we don’t mean when problems become too much.Just tell yourself it’s just words,meaningless words.She will probably feel bad or already does.I know those are harsh words. Don’t take ot to heart honey,Try to remember a time when you said something you shouldn’t have when you were mad or something.And then you will see how silly it is too worry about it and be more careful w/ your words .Maybe you could teach Mom something by your example this way.And recognize that adults are just human.they make mistakes and need to learn too.Let her know that it hurts and forgive her.If she keeps it up,just give her space when shes upset. does that help?

Your mother is taking in the fact she cant hold a marriage and shes expresing her mercy towards you in hope of support. You need to support their descision, because having two people around in a constant battle is not good for you either. Love them indivdually as you always have. It’s not that bad. You can learn from this. Love is a special thing not to be taken for granted.

no it wasnt just stress and words IM STRESSED she perfectly fine but im confused

What are you doing wrong in her eyes?

EVERYTHING seriously if i wash cloths its wrong if i dont wash cloths its wrong if i eat its wrong if i am watching tv …its WRong seriosly NO lie
my dad has gona to sleep in my sisters bed cuz my sisters sleeping at a freiands tonight and my mom has left .. and i am wide awake and acasionally throwing up b/c of the stress i have on ME and also i have GAD (generalized Anexiety disorder)
its not right for them to be fighting at 3:10 in the morning

well there not now right?maybe you should get some sleep and see how you feel in the morning

i went to sleep last night at 6:00pm i am wide awake lol but no my moms left

oh.then..umm…call a lawyer?
wait.no.>< dont listen to me im grouchy.
I think da above people are right though,just tell ur mom what she said hurt u and see her reaction

ok thanks alot yall i love help.com and please put ur pants on thanks alot and everyone else

Yeah, I was that way with my daughter ,not that bad, but now i see how that hurt her feelings and pride. I’m the same as you too, When it comes to someone telling me HOW to do something, That can be worse than telling me WHAT to do. Mom has done what most mothers and wemon do- shes probably developed a pattern of HOW to do things, it helps to do this to be most effective in saving time, money and effort.What to do?Tell her ‘I see now that you have good reasons for the way you keep house and I want to help, but you make it hard to help when you don’t let me do it a different way than yours.’

Also,you may be able to help by pointing out (in a nice,casual way) to ‘Dont sweat the small stuff’.talking about what’s more important.Like , which is more important? the laundry getting clean or how its folded.I think cleanliness is more important than being tidy.You can use this in all areas of housework…..PS. there is a book on ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff’ Good luck sweetie.