Thought help: Do most people take kindness for weakness? - Help.com

oh dear, i hope not

not at all,kindess can be a strenth.

I’ll always remember when I was six years old, and I let a girl go before me on a water slide, as she was complaining how long the queue was. After she went down the slide into the pool she doggy-paddled over to her mother and exclaimed how I was a baby, and a fraidy-cat, because I didn’t go first.

I don’t know what that proves… Just felt like story time ;]

I kind of think that most people do not take kindness for a weakness… It’s only the ignorant ones.

I have to say personnally that in moderation kindness in itself is nothing but a personality trait.However,when you become so kind that your opinion are trampled underneith other it is most definitly a weakness.

Unfortunately I think a lot of people do, even if it’s not consciously. I’m such a nice person and I’m constantly being walked on, and I just can’t help saying “yes,” “Ok I’ll do it” or something along those lines. I enjoy being nice and helping others, but it becomes a pain when they start over staying their welcome and have no regard for your feelings.

so kindness is MY weakness I guess.

do you say yes becouse you want to or becouse you feel you have to?

Thinking about it, I reckon any personality trait that’s on the extreme side of a spectrum is viewed as a weakness by someone or other. Too modest - too vain, Too Smart - Too Dumb, Too Introverted - Too extroverted, too kind - too cruel etc.. Unless you’re one of the monochrome people who are never /too/ anything, anyone can take an aspect of you and call it a weakness.

The way people perceive others personality depends on their own, surely?

If you’re the type of person who’ll abuse peoples kindness you’ll start to see it as a weakness.
The type of person who appreciates kindness will see it as a strength.

Unfortunately I reckon there are less of the latter around these days…

thats a very good point!

Sorry to say, but I beileve so.

here,here!

Neujersey i wasn’t thinking that!!! i was stating other people think that!!!!

blanchardj wrote:
do you say yes becouse you want to or becouse you feel you have to?

To answer that one, it depends on the situation… most of the time I’ll do things because I genuinely want to help, I also like the feeling of being needed by someone, but then sometimes I’ll do it because I have a hard time saying no. Obviously, if it were to get to a certain point I would say no, but it’s mostly my family that I have a hard time saying no to. Most of the time I feel obligated to help them because they’re my family.

Lrenah, sounds like you are a relyable and a dependable pearson especially to your family, so your kindness means your are a srength to them.

blanchardj wrote:
Lrenah, sounds like you are a relyable and a dependable pearson especially to your family, so your kindness means your are a srength to them.

aww thank you blanchard! They seriously could not do anything without me, but it also is holding me back from doing some things with my own life. But I figure I have more time to do it later anyway.

Oh no, kindness is all about strength. It is much harder to kind in some situations than to be mean-spirited. Loll…I find that to be true everyday here…

This is an interesting question. I never actually grouped the two traits together before. some people are weak and some are strong, some people are kind and some are not. I guess I think its easy to be kind to people you like, and hard to be kind to people who really need to see what kindness feels like. So… it seems to take more strength to be kind to all people than it would to not be kind to some. I guess having kindness in you is all about being a stronger person.

This is a stimulating question. I think the opposite of kindness is meaness. Kindness, I believe comes from a loving nature and is a positive character trait. In today’s society negative character traits are glamourised. Therefore, to be mean, tough, angry and violent are the order of the day. So being kind can be seen as being weak. Sad isn’t it.

People take kindness fr granted. Not a weakness per say…

Oh yes, most people do!

Because kindness means a sort of vulnerability to be cheated. If you are kind in terms of just kind words or so, you can be “cheated” by getting an unkind response. Some people see that as if the unkind person scored 1-0.

If you are kind in terms of lending out stuff, helping with actions or so, you can be cheated in more ways, e.g. economically.

Girls also tend to see it as less macho to be kind, and seem to be drawn to the nasty men. Don’t ask me why, I think it is an instinct thing because the nasty one often seems confident.

On the other hand I am convinced that kindness pays off in the end. If not by other means, at least it helps you being confident in having tried your best to be a good person.

i think to be more accutrate, i would have to say that people seem to equate kindness with Stupidity.
Now, however i may come off here, i am a kind person, yet i am not a “nice” man, nor prone to be fooled or taken advantage of. But more important to me is this, are the kind being fair?

I choose fairness over kindness, and honor over fairness, yet with the fairness and honor there is never a conflict

I can and will respect and enjoy someones kindness, if it is genuine. If not, and they are only acting the part for thier own ends, and i will know, i see nothing wrong with taking advantage of them.

i think i just got too complicated, and should retract some of that, but yet, i think i will let it stand, and see how many people tell me how wrong i am, hehehe