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And no I am not at the ‘Suicide’ point. No way, jose!

she’s only better if think that way

Quotes like that make no sense to me, and even when I do feel like I’m better, I’m constently reminded by other people/friends.

what i mean by it, is if you let your self think that she is better,and you are bringing yourself down about it, your gonna feel bad, and your gonna believe that she is even though she isn’t necessarily better at everything.

To apache tear - Nooo. Not what I meant. It just doesn’t work. She is.

neujersey - sorry to ask, but who’s aristotle? I’m on the young side so thats prob why I dont know.

aristotle, an smart old greek dude

Well,
I really don’t think she’s better at you than everything. I mean you haven’t tried everything yet. Besides, there will always be someone better than you. There is no question about that. Therefore, there’s no pressure to be number one. Go out and have fun with your friend! Who the hell cares about who’s better. However, if she treat’s you like number 2, no pun intended, drop her.

Ask yourself what you want to be good at/your passion and formulate a plan on how to make it happen.

Find the things you can do well. Sure, other people may be able to do them better than you but rather than concentrating on how much better they have it, think about making yourself the best you that you can be. We all have different strengths and talents, and yes some have more than others, but the important thing is that we make the best of what we were given, and accept others whether they were given more or less than we. Don’t get down on yourself just because your not the best. There’s a lot of us out there like you :) I’m sure your an amazing, talented, beautiful person, so enjoy life and don’t worry about whether your the best or not. Hope that made a little sense and helps!

Hello I ran across this book called StrengthsFinder 2.0 in Borders bookstore:

I am not related to that book but I thought it was interesting when I took the exam online because though the questions and my answers seemed somewhat neutral to me, the assessment reaffirmed some things I thought I was good at and opened my eyes to possibilities I’ve never considered.

Hope this helps. :)

Just don’t think of everything as a competition, then maybe you won’t feel so inferior to your friend. You two are friends!! No need to compete like that. Just enjoy being around each other when you can. =D Hope things get better for you. =)

Don’t compare yourself. Trust me on this one. It won’t help any.