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Leah

I’m not sure how to deal.

So, I haven’t been here for a while. Sorry about that. Not that you guys probably noticed, haha, I’m sure you have lives outside this place.
Anyhoo.
In case you don’t remember, I dated this guy nearly six months ago who slept with me then stopped talking to me completely. Didn’t give me any “I think we should just be friends” or “I don’t think we’re right for each other.”
Totally ****** blew me off.
I’ve been trying so, so hard to try to get over it and to learn from it, but it’s hard, considering he didn’t give me a smidge of closure. So now I’m left on my own trying to forge some closure and deal with the guilt and pain and etc.
I’m out of options. I’ve stopped cutting (4 months and going strong), started running, stopped stress-eating, started eating healthier, began meditating, started praying more, quit holding my feelings inside, quit blaming myself, but guess what? I still don’t feel better.
Can anyone suggest anything I could do to ******* forget this loser?

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- Fourthings - 35 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Wow, you’re doing well, well done! I’m not sure, what do you enjoy doing the most?

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Leah 2 #
University Place, WA, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Thanks :)
I enjoy running and knitting most, I suppose.

roninfan 0 #
Augusta, GA, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

read. that helps. or listen to music… book wise, go with fantasy… Tamora Pierce writes UNGODLY good books

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- Fourthings - 35 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Well I mean, try to think of the things that make you happy, make a list in necessary. Picture yourself doing what would make you happy, then fill in the gaps between that dream and now and what you’d have to do to accomplish it.

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Leah 2 #
University Place, WA, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (9 minutes after post)

Ohhhh okay. That makes sense.

One of the things on that list remains “ruin his life”, but I’m not so sure that’s the healthiest haha. I think I’ll look for other things.

- Fourthings - 35 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Aww, not all guys are assholes. Try to forgive him for hurting you, and maybe learn to pity him, then you can move on.

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roninfan 0 #
Augusta, GA, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

that is a good idea

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ÑÌnJÅ_ 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

u r very good looking, its hes loss not urs

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Leah 2 #
University Place, WA, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

Well, I definitely pity him (especially considering the body I’ve gotten from running, LOL.) It will take a lot to forgive him. I wish he’d just talk to me, it would make it so much easier.

And *blushes* thanks Ninja.

- Fourthings - 35 #
Ballinteer, 07, IE | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Well, if you can forget about talking to him and put it behind you, you’d prolly be happier, seems like it’s all you have left to do.

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scatt4ever 2 #
Glasgow, KY, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

I have a good friend that had a boyfriend who left her. She said the same thing you said: “I wish he’d just talk to me. It would make it so much easier.” When he called her again he wanted to come back and she let him. That was about a week ago and now he’s gone again. I don’t think it was any easier for her.

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Leah 2 #
University Place, WA, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

Lol well I definitely would not let him back if he talked to me again.

roger2343 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

one of the best ways to forget someone that hurt you a while ago and it still hurts is to find someone else. i know this can be very hard at first but you must take youre relationships slower . i mean start off as a bit friendly and then go on a few casual dates and definatly dont sleep with them so soon. b4 u do sleep wem make sure that they are genuine eneough to stay with you.

the key to this is take it SLOW and ease urself into dating him

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lavu_aiu #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 2 weeks ago (3 months, 4 weeks after post)

Hi Leah
Really you are so nice.I’m impressed to see u.will u friendship me

Awaiting ur reply
Lavu

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

Leah, you have no idea how great and beautiful you are inside and out if you respect yourself more guys will respect you more also. This loSsEeRr jus got rid of a great girl and someday some1 is oin to do the same to him remember what goes around comes around. And when that happens he will be regretting his stupid jerk move that he made on you for the rest of his life and you you will be Happy and completely moved on. I’ve got a problem to. But you remember he used you so why stress over someone like that find someone new trust me you will anda better1 ~GoodLuck~
Chrissy

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spikywire 0 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months, 3 weeks ago (4 months, 3 weeks after post)

Anywho, I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. Sometimes it takes another person in your life. Have you tried dating? Or are the wounds to fresh?

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