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I am stressed out so much that I think I am now getting sick.

I cant think of anything but my problems. I try to live a normal life but the worrying is always in the back of my head, driving me crazy. I just keep trying to find a solution to the problem. I think I am the only one who can fix it. I dont want to rely on my husband to fix it because Im afraid that will lead to disapointment and resentment. but because he is NOT fixing it I am feeling disapointed and resentful of him. see the twisted circle I live in. I tell myself everyday that we are a blessed family. I worry for the people who have it worse than us but at the same time I feel so sad that we are in this situation. we have our house for sale… pray for a quick sale. then we can take that money and live on. I pray for my husband to get a good job and finally support us as a family. I think maybe I should sell my store that I love, but doesnt give us much more than grocery and spending money and then I can try to get some kind of training and get a job to support the family. I guess it means daycare for my son but maybe I can do it. or my husband can watch him since he cant/wont work. I really really am losing all faith in my husband right now. It is affecting everything. He is the love of my life and really in all ways he is a good good man and great father, he just does not want to get a job. dont get me wrong, he has a strong work ethic and isnt really lazy, he just thinks that he has paid his dues and should automatticly get the “good job” Just because he made decent money last year when the construction was booming doesnt mean he can always do that. How do I convince him to take a “lesser” job and pay cut in order to support us?? because then he will resent me. Im back in that circle of worrry

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9 months, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 1 minute after post)

Just sit down and talk it out. Worrying never solves anything except if you’re trying to make yourself sick. Yes you can get sick from stress so just relax for a minute. Figure out your options, figure out a solution. Try and make yourself impartial completely, your husband has to be a part of this as well, don’t shoulder the world, you’re not atlas.

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Troy, OH, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 1 minute after post)

I know it isn’t easy. Been there and done that. Have you sat down and talked with him about any of this? No matter how hard you try you will not be able to do this alone. I don’t like to ask for help at all. But here recently I have had to because of the situtation that we have going on this way. I am soo stressed out also and no matter what I do can’t stop thinging about all of it. I have found to go and take a nice hot bath before bed will relax you. I do that about everynight just to be able to try to relax. Doesn’t always work but hey even one night of relaxing is a relief. Sorry couldn’t be much more help. Hope things get better for you.

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