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Hi. I just wanted you to know that A’s don’t make you a good child. Just living and taking care of your brother and dealing with all of the craziness makes you a great person. I hope things start looking better for you, because you seem like the kind of person that deserves a little good luck. So. Good luck.

thanks

A’s seem to make my teachers and Father think i am good child but i am not to sure myself

I know this is gonna sound lame, but hear me out. I’ve recently discovered that’s really, truly, not about what your teacher thinks, what your father thinks, what your peers think. You came into this world by yourself, with nothing, and you leave it by yourself, with only your deeds to lead you on. In the end, its about what made you happy, what you did to make others happy, and what made your life stand out. What little contribution you added to this world. Don’t be unsure. Know what you’re doing, and then live. Live each day with the attitude that its going to be different than the day before and its going to change something. A small something or a big something. Who cares? Just do it. For yourself.

the only “job” a child should have is going to school and a few minor chores around the house. so if you are getting A’s then you are doing a perfect job, especially at your age , it is hard work at that grade level.

is your sister still at home or does she have a stable home elsewhere you could visit when needed?

thank you guys i like you philosify but i cant help it
My sister is cray and if i said thing sto her she twists my words around and i get in trouble thats what happens anytime i talk to any one

the results you get show that your hard working and bright. the fact that you can still achieve this even with all your going through is amazing. your the kind of person that movies are made about and books are written. as bad as it is, reading your story shows me that though my life aint the best right now, (screwing up uni, broke up with girlfreind a while ago and Granny passed away yesterday) there are other people out there putting up with much worse. i dont think i could live with your pressure.
hang in there, life WILL get better for you, you have the strength and courage to go far. even though i have, and will most likely never meet you, thankyou for your story. it has lifted a burden from me. take care, and all the best.

IamAr wrote:
the results you get show that your hard working and bright. the fact that you can still achieve this even with all your going through is amazing. your the kind of person that movies are made about and books are written. as bad as it is, reading your story shows me that though my life aint the best right now, (screwing up uni, broke up with girlfreind a while ago and Granny passed away yesterday) there are other people out there putting up with much worse. i dont think i could live with your pressure.hang in there, life WILL get better for you, you have the strength and courage to go far. even though i have, and will most likely never meet you, thankyou for your story. it has lifted a burden from me. take care, and all the best.

i am sorry to here about what is happening with you and i shall say one thing
there will always be someone suffering more than you, there will always someone suffering less than you but that does not mean that you pain is unimportant.
WE EILL PREVAIL LOL

thank you for your kind words

Hello sweetie, I can only imagine the pain you are facing. I am a recovering addict this means I abused drugs and alcohol for a long time and caused myself and family great pain as what your parents and thier patners are casuing you. 1st I would like to tell you they mess has nothing to do with who you are. They are addicts and this doesn’t mean theydon’t love you it means they don’t love thier selve. If you beleive in God or whatever you stay strong and pray to whatever your belief is continue to better yourself and stay focused. What ever you do don’t pick up drugs or alcohol to numb yourself because that is exactly what they are doing. My advice to you is to seek a support network maybe the art teacher mayknow of some typeofsupport groups inyour area or even you guidance counselor at school. This may not be what you want to do. But Iknow there is power in prayer so sweetie stay strong. Maybe encourage your Mom to attend the AA meetings it sounds like she could use them.

i do pray thank you for your words and wisdom
they are not causin me any pain
my mom would never think of going to those things they change people
and for myself i have seen the damage of alcohol and my mom says its in my blood and i am going to fall into it also . so that just motivates me move to prove her wrong i never want to drink an dmy mom is already giving me drinks telling me to lighten up

no problem. i havent said nothing but the truth in my eyes.
And dam right Anon, WE WILL PREVAIL!!!! all of us.
a small suggestion, try and find a friend that you can trust and talk to, maybe not necessarily some1 close, but sum1 you can feel comfortable offloading all this onto. i find talking bout things helps clear my head and work out what i really want/need.
if you can aswell, id talk to your mum and Jack, probably seperatly, and tell them how this is affecting you, not in an accusing way, but jus state your fee
lings and point of view. it might wake them up to your obvious plight and At the very least you wont feel you have to stay quiet about this all upsetting you. talking to your sister bout how she hurts you could also help because she may be so wrapped up in her own misery, as im sure this affects her aswell, and maybe give you both a chance to get closer and/or tackle this problem together. 2 voices in unison are louder than 1.

my sister drinks with my mom
they are to hard headed to talk to i tried when she was so drunk one night shew had my little brother in a corner-this is mom
i tried to talk to people but noone seems to care and i cant blam them

i just want jack to leave
i want things well and everyone happy and healthy my poor mom is so stressed from the cancer and i dont really know how to confort her i hold her when she crys and tell her its going to be ok
i just so well scared

i have tried to talk to my est friend but she doesnt care and my art teacher is just so busy i dont want to bother her

at least you now know how to start solving this problem of yours. and if you can, try talking to her when she’s sober. she’ll listen better then.
and talk to your art teacher, you 2 seem to get on, if she’s as nice as you make her out to be, then she will be glad to talk to you and she wont consider it a bother. plus she also has experience with dealing with breast cancer, and will have tips for you and your mum on how to get through it.
your best friend most likely doesnt understand what our going through and is scared of it,so she sticks her head in the sand and hope it all goes away.
if things get really bad would you be able to stay at her house if necessary? its always good to have somewhere else to go if you need to.

actually my friends father drove an hour to pick me up from my moms house after one of her druncken rades and kicked me and my little brother up(my brother went to his dads)
I did talk to my mom when she is sober i avoide her when she not
i really dont have time to talk to my art teacher she really is always busy and there is always people around her
My friend and i havent talked for a while
so what uni were you planning on going to and how could you “screw it up”

make an arrangment with her after or between classes some day. you should probably talk to your friend, she may be worried about you and not sure what to do.
oh and im at strahclyde university in 2nd year and have just messed up my exams a bit.
quite gutted in that the people i have to help in class all did way better than me in the recent exams. ill get over it though, just have to work harder methinks. lol.

good im glad you are able to get throughit
my friend is just one of those people who like drama any times i try to her about anything she starts talking about her and her problems which is fine im here for her to vent but

do yu know anything about water color i have an art prodject due and it is very difficult LOL

thankyou. you tried talkin to a different friend, or even her parents??
and sorry my art abilities fail me on anything more advanced than stick men. lol.

i know this sounds weak and stupid i amafraid to .
i want to talk to my school concilor, i even got called in once because i had a melt down in my english class, but when i got there i couldnt say anything, i though t i would throw up if i opened my mouth and i though tshe could be dealing with such more important problems like abuse

try writing it down, it makes it easier to tell ppl, either by jus reading it to them or letting them read it themselves. i think talking to the school councilor would be a good idea if you can do it, they’re trained for this kind of thing and have lots of resources at their disposal.
as for more important issues, im considering counselling for my problems, and yours are way worse. you need to talk to someone, be selfish in this matter for your own wellbeing.

thanks i know i should and you should to
but i well you know
only if we could go together emotional support LOL
people on here have sujested writing it down before , so i did now i just cant give it to her

my problems are not worst than yours its not fair to put ones needs over anothers
like my quote i sent you before

lol. i kno i should, but my problems laziness more than anything else.
and dont give it to her then, read it out to her.
and it may not be fair, but im still gona do it. lol.
and tell you what, ill go and book an appointment the second you talk to either the school counselor or your teacher. deal?

ok ill try here ill take my anon thing off ill add you as a friend

how come i cant add you as a friend?

no idea, i only joined today/tonight
can you email me?

whats your name?

just sent you an email. and you should remove that post if you can so randoms dont get hold of your email address.

how

tell the moderators??
not sure how else.

o well if worst come i can change my email

true. hope you dont have to though. uv already given out alot of info in this post.
ah well.

very true but i dont see y any one would be intrested in such a pathetic person
ok well it was nice to meet you i got your email

you never know. you seem like a really nice person. and you aint pathetic.
was nice chattin to ya, better go now though, got class in jus under 5 hours and need some sleep. lol. remember to let me know when u talk to someone!!
take care and all the best.

thanks and me to about the if you need to talk and the having class in 5 hrs- i have zero hours
bye!

I would like to say to you that there is nothing wrong with you, but the people around you have problems and you can’t solve them no matter how hard you try or want to. If there is a school counselor that you feel comfortable with or your art teacher I would talk to them. You need to take care of yourself so you can have a positive future and not become part the cycle that your parents have set in motion. Because it is easier to become part of the cycle than to fight it, You need someone that you can trust and feel comfortable with to talk to when it gets bad. Some one any one in your community that you can turn to that will help you and your brother. And I can be contacted through a shout if you need some one to vent to as well. I would be more than willing to listen. Good Luck

thank you, i know i should talk to someone

thank you