Love help: im in love with a girl that is in lov with some guy that is in a relationship she considers us friends with benefits but i think theres more there. - Help.com

shimmydyla
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im in love with a girl that is in lov with some guy that is in a relationship she considers us friends with benefits but i think theres more there.

but wahts badis she kinda flirts with my friend and hes a lil new to it all so im afraid hes gunna fall for her also, and i do get jealouse easy its pathetic. i try and tell her im over her but she knows better. idk what to do i love her but i cant have her but i dont want someone else to have her either, any advice?

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Anonymous #
9 months, 2 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

Well…if he’s your mate, let him know that you’re sleeping with her and I’m sure that’ll send him running! And in terms of the girl, the best advice I can give is to start looking elsewhere. Use her in the same way she’s using you and that way she may also get a taste of her own medicine.

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US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (12 minutes after post)

ive tried and im having troubke moving on cuz im hoping theres something there or she’ll come around

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Anonymous #
9 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

You’ll be waiting a long time if she’s also flirting/ in love with other people. How many people are you going to tell to lay off her in the meantime? Love is a two-way thing and by putting all of your eggs into one basket and holding out for her, you’re opening yourself up to all sorts of heartache in the long term.

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HK | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

sorry if what i say may be offensive/painful, but i guess this website should allow people to say things that i plan to say:
i don’t think you should stay with that girl anymore because u know that shes flirty with all the guys, so even if u do manage to get her to be your girlfriend, she’ll be flirty with other guys and be friends with benefits with other guys too. being an easily jealous person u are (i am too, actually), its gonna hurt (i haf experience) a lot dating someone that doesn’t seem to pay the necessary amount of attention a boyfriend should get from a girlfriend.
my advice is to lose her.

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Help me with: So ever since noor and i broke up, we’ve been friends with benefits (fwb, for short) the entire time.
shimmydyla offline Unverified User #
US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

yea. your right…thanks ill def. sleep on that. and charles dont worry about ofensive with me …and i guess ur right she’ll always be flirty…

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x0x_beb offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Toronto, ON, CA | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 5 minutes after post)

I think you need to talk to her about the way you feel. Being friends with benefits isn’t a great idea. I’ve done and it’s only caused heart break. It’s usually one person out of the relationship of friends with benefits that start feeling something for the other person and the other person doesnt seem to feel it back for you. Maybe just becoming friends will be better then friends with benefits. again talk to her about your feelings and let her no that they’ve come to you all of a sudden considering you both are very close physically and emotionally. if she doesn’t understand and if she blows you off, move on. dont continue the benefits TRUST ME your just asking for further problems.
good luck.

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