boyfriend help: I am 14 years old and have a 17 year old boyfriend.

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I am 14 years old and have a 17 year old boyfriend.

We lost our virginity to each other about a month ago. Before we did we were thinking about getting married. Maybe it was a stupid thought but we are or like my mom says think we’re in love. I was supposed to have a sweet fifteen party in April. Well my boyfriend and I really love each other and he talked to his mom about me comming to move in w/them and their aunt and uncle. His mom said that it was fine w/her but that I should talk to my parents. I did and they forced me to tell them if i was having sex with my boyfriend. Once they knew they both hit me and threatened to call the cops on my boyfriend. I was so scared that I said that I wouldn’t see him again if they didn’t. My dad went at one in the morning to my boyfriends house. I prayed so hard that my boyfriend was already at work.( my boyfriend’s illegal so he’s working with papers that say he’s 21 if my parents call the cops he’ll get in serious trouble) Luckily my bf was already working. The next day my bf went to see me during lunch at school. He told me that my parents had gone to talk to both him and his mom. Well to make the long story short we all agreed that my bf and i could still date and see each other but now my parents dont let me talk that much to him. I haven’t seen him since that happened and my mom tells me that my bf doesn’t love me that it was just a booty call that I’m too good for him. She sees all the he doesn’t have a good home for you he’s illegal like me and all that stuff she doesn’t see that i love him though. HELP i am so depressed If my bf and I break up because of how hard my parents are trying to get us to I will never forgive them for it. Why would my parents say that we can still date if they wont let us talk or see each other? Is my mom right? Why doesn’t she understand us?

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yay_bubbles 4 #
Cedar Falls, IA, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (2 hours, 57 minutes after post)

ok i am also 14 yrs old and if i was ur mom i would b upset 2. if u were 2gether 4 awhile then it was prabably real but if u just got 2gether then i think u were a booty call. ur parents prabably acted the way they did 2 protect u. my parents are the same way. they do it in a way that they know will get me mad. try talking 2 ur mom about the dating thing bcuz if she said that u could still date him then that kinda invalves talking and cing eachother. try to make some kinda deal. but wow. u had sex at the age of 14 with a 17 yr old guy! i have a question, wat was going through ur mind when u did this? ok if ur mom doenst let u c him again member that u r 14 and had sex and u wanted 2 live with him! good luck.

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C.M.Theisen 1 #
Providence, RI, US | 2 years, 1 month ago (15 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Maybe this relationship is just too risky to continue. Your boyfriend is illegal and his papers say he is 21, so if your parents ever do go to the police he either gets charged with statutory rape or gets deported. This isn’t a healthy situation for a relationship.

Try to remember that your parents do want what is best for you. They understand that that teenage relationships tend to not last. Frankly you really wouldn’t want them too anyway. It’s healthy to date several people as we grow and learn who we are and what we want out of life. The person you are now, will be very different in certain ways when you are 17 or 21, or even 25. It’s hard for you and your boyfriend to stay together since you will both be changing over the next few years. I think your parents are just trying to keep you from getting too attached. Trying to keep your heart from being broken.

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sweetheart 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 years ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

i just don’t want you to get your hopes up. It is way to risky, and i know you think you love him but, you only fourteen you have so much time to find love…

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Chicken Chaser 11 21 #
Kirkland, WA, US | 2 years ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

sweetheart is right. i know this from personal experience. i loved 2 guys and i never thought i could live without them. but i sorted out my priorities and now i realise that i don’t need them. sort out your priorities CAREFULLY to figure out what you really want.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 11 months ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

im confussed ur boyfriend is prob just using u 4 a bit of easy sex to be honest and if that is the case well poor you, i feel for you. At the end of the day getting married at 14 what are you on girl?

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Chullora, 02, AU | 1 year, 5 months ago (8 months, 2 weeks after post)

First of all your mom is worried cause youre still a kid (14) I am a mother myself and I know that I will be very worried if my 14 yr old daughter starts seeing a guy at such an early age…Finish school first, get a job then think about boys later…Your mom loves you very much and doesnt want to see you get hurt, I dont know much about your bf mayb mom is right youre just a booty stop…So get a life and get over it stop blaming your mom…

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (1 year, 10 months after post)

People that don’t understand where your coming from shouldn’t reply to this post. Okay, I was dating a 20 year old about 3 months ago. We only lasted about a week the first time and the second time we lasted about 2 weeks. It was because we were only meant to be friends. You need to think about if you and your boyfriend were only meant to be friends too. I’m 14 too, by the way. I lost my virginity to this one guy, he was 17 and I knew he wasn’t a virgin, I knew he had a girlfriend. But I didn’t think he was such a jerk. He said every sweet thing under the sun to get in my pants, and it worked. Then after, he acted like it never happened. You need to start thinking about how much you really know your boyfriend. I was also dating a different 17 year old, he was pretty nice. Really hot. He wasn’t always trying to get in my pants. But he was so immature, and I’m pretty sure hes never gonna go anywhere in life. Is your boyfriend one of those type of people? Your mom could be right, but she doesn’t know your boyfriend or where your coming from. You probably shouldn’t listen to her. You should just go talk to your boyfriend about where he thinks this relationship is gonna go. Ask him if he still wants to be with you.Ask him how he feels about the whole situation.

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