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PLEASE HELP, long-distance relationship :(

I have been in a long-distance relationship for 9 months now and it has been so hard. He was supposed to see me last weekend but his Dad didn’t buy the tickets. Anyways, I am so in love with him and Im so scared to lose him. Im extremly afraid of being alone. Everytime I think about being without, it brings me to tears.

But we fight everyday about stupid things. He’s too worried about his pride. Ill hang up on him, and he won’t call back. He used to call back, and now he says he’s never going to call me back after I hang up. But I always will call him back if he hangs up on me! It’s like everything in our relationship isn’t fair. He treats me differently than I treat him.

He can’t control his anger. He’ll get mad and I try to calm him down, but nothing works. While he’s angry, he says really hurtful things. But he doesn’t realize how much they hurt. He doesn’t believe that words can really mess up someone.

I don’t want to say Im depressed, because I am happy sometimes and I like being with friends when Im at school, but when I get home it’s a totally different situation. I cut myself off from everyone and all I want to do is talk to him. My mood revolves around him. Everything has to be perfect between him and I, or I get basically phyco. When my mom tries to talk to me and tell me to calm down, I just scream at her.

Ive found myself crying alot lately. I don’t know what to do anymore. I love him so much, and I know he loves me… but Im so worried that we’re going to break up and Im going to be alone. I live in Georgia… and I hate it. There are no guys like him here. I feel like if we break up, Ill never find someone that makes me feel like he does. Like, Ill never get over him. Maybe that’s me being niave, but I honestly believe it.

I don’t know what exactly my problem is. He basically has emotionally abused me. Lately he hasn’t been doing this though, but sometimes he would just call me names out of no where or say something kind of mean. I try to tell him how much it hurts me, but he doesn’t see how it does. No matter what I say, he doesn’t get it. I tell him that if he really cared about me and loved me, he wouldn’t treat me the way he does.

I know that our relationship isn’t heathly. He makes me depressed and sad all of the time. But like I said, I feel like if I let him go, Ill never have someone like him again.

Ive been making this relationship look 100% bad, and it’s not. He makes me so happy and I laugh constantly when I talk to him. He calls me names like “cutie”, and “babycakes”, and I absolutly love it. He’s the most romantic guy I know and we tell each other we’ll always love eachother and be with eachother. These things make me kind of forget about the bad parts… which isn’t something I should do.

Im never truly happy anymore when Im not talking to him. Im constantly thinking about him and our relationship.

Please give me some advice?

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