life help: My wife is having an affair with some guy in the carribbean islands and she flies out twice a month on our home budget. - Help.com

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kick her out on her *** and file for divorce

divorce her butt! tell her to stop with the games and start being a mom. This aint fair on you - who seems to be a nice caring Dad

if you have plenty of evidence of her psychocrazy schemes, then you should do pretty well in court

easy when it comes to adultery! esp with the finances showing it all! proof she aint there when the little 1 need it

so you should get custody of the kids for sure, and a good chance of keeping most of the stuff

Seek legal advice on your options here, both in terms of the divorce and the money situation. Best of luck buddy.

adultery forces her to loose everything through a divorce.. as long as you can prove it… that includes all financial items.. house, car etc.. and the children… adultery is frowned upon by a judge…

Get legal advise as how to go about it. But definitely get divorced. Get her name off all the credit cards and bank accounts. And stay strong for those boys. They need you. Always put them first. You are all they have.

i dont mean to be rude or nasty but you should kick the bi**h to the kerb

george197 wrote:
i dont mean to be rude or nasty but you should kick the bi**h to the kerb

sh!t… i would get rude and nasty…. the b!tch needs to leave!!!!!

lil_bit_shi wrote:

george197 wrote:
i dont mean to be rude or nasty but you should kick the bi**h to the kerb

sh!t… i would get rude and nasty…. the b!tch needs to leave!!!!!

there… didnt think i had it in me did you all… hahahahahahhahaha

Something doesn’t sound quite right with your post. How do you know how many affairs she’s had and what they looked like? So you stay home with the kids and she’s out bringing in the money? Seems odd that she has the time and resources to fly to the Caribbean twice a month with you and the kids to support. While I’m not disputing your wife’s infidelity, I find your account somewhat extreme. Is it possible that your letting your imagination run away with you?

If I’m wrong, and your wife has admitted to these affairs, why would you stay after the first or second? I can understand giving someone a second chance, but four? You have just as much right to the bank accounts and budget as she does. If you act like a victim, you’ll be treated like one.

Don’t just *kick* her to the curb. You have children involved - and they will be traumatized by the loss of either parent. Sit down with your wife and maybe a professional and get to the root of the problem. If you or she is unwilling or unable to change the problem behavior then you should consider splitting amicably. (Divorce laws are governed by state - don’t assume you get it all due to adultery)

Remember your kids. They don’t feel the same way about their mother as you do right now, and they never will - they will always love her no matter what.