life help: Here is a question that has been bothering me for a while maybe you guys could shed some light on it for me. - Help.com

its life, some of us are just born unlucky i think. But the harder you struggle the better the reward feels, or thats how i try and look at it anyways!

It does suck, but there are also people who make a difference, or who rise from nothing to being able to make changes and empower themselves. Keep hanging in there, and if you really feel like this, join an activist group! Places like moveon.org might seem like boring political activism, but at the core of it, it’s about social justice! Also, VOTE!! It does make a real difference. A vote republican is a vote for the wealthy, and a vote democrat can make a difference, although they have their problems as well. Some politicians are trying to make a difference in the lives of those people who try hard all their lives and are never cut a break. I voted Clinton, but you might be inspired by Obama.
Keep your chin up!

I Know what you mean.I have family and friends the same way. the best example is a woman that has had an extremely easy life,Hasn’t had to work in 40 yrs. And has everything and more,except when it comes to her health.And I’m very healthy. But i see how having every thing ‘on a platter’ has stunted her growth,she doesn’t have the emotional,spiritual etc.. knowledge that so many, like us have.So ,that makes me the richer one, therefore truly blessed that we Live and not just exist.It makes me sad for her that she’s always in pain not only physical but otherwise too….And the other thing is ‘We reap what we sow’.her own son doesn’t even come around.I try to keep this in mind-’things are not always as the SEEM’.Just keep up the good work .Everyone you know will benefit from your perseverence and knowledge, at the very least,by example.

I used to feel that way with people who have the “easy life.” But we really do not know what there inner struggles are. Some people seem to have all the material things they could want and still not be happy.

And if they are lying and cheating to get things they are not knowing true inner happiness. Just feel pity for these people.

My Mother raised 3 girls on her own. Working two jobs. It was hard road to take. I am thankful she never gave up. Your pay off will be great when you see your children living as happy healthy adults with successful lives. You will know the great role you played in getting them there. Know that will be a satisfactions worth all the long struggle.

I agree too, but when these same easy life people then judge me for having to struggle financially, or the fact that I can’t just take off work whenever because I don’t still live at home with my mother who pays for everything for me and my kids or I am not married to a man I do not love that I cheat on all the time and left a number of times for someone else I thought would take care of me. And they never worry about hoe to feed their kids or if they can pay rent that month it is hard to stay poitive and keep going down your road that is so hard and nobody there to even HELP you it is hard to not feel frustration.

I think babacup says it best.And I want to add that It’s not over for them either,We are all still growing,so there is always hope for them.

That is true but why do they have to look down on me? Everyhting I have I got on my own, I work hard and I never give up so why then do they think that they are so much better? They can’t make it on their own. i would love to have someone to help me but I don’t so why does that make me less?

I think it’s about learned Integrity,having more completeness maturity. They just haven’t achieved something we have.

When someone looks down on you it is a problem they have within them selves. You can not take it to heart and let it bother you. As long as you are doing what is right for you and your children that is all that matters. It does not make you less. It makes you more. It makes you strong and determined. Do not let them bring you down.

My husband and I lost our house, car, and him his job. We lived with family for a while. It was tough and got looked down upon from some family members. It was tough not to let it get to me. It bothered my husband more than me. Because I knew our struggles and I knew our mistakes and our strengths. I did not let it pull me down. If anything it made our successes in life that much better. Knowing how hard we worked to get here.

It doesn’t make you less.It actually makes you more.It may SEEM like they are looking down on you.They just don’t have the knowledge and such that you have and it irratates them. It’s their problem,not yours.Stand with your convictions and values. Maybe it’s time to add new friends .Surround yourself with people who think the same as you. People that press on in times of trouble,who want to truly grow and inspire you and you CAN inspire.The ones you have now are bringing you down with their immaturity of not understanding,connecting.

Good stuff Amanda!

I recommend a personality tests and/or Astrology for encouragement ,there is free ones on site.And Fellowship . Is that an option for you?

Where are free ones?

I just type in the browser’freeastrology’, then click on one of the choices till I find one that I want.

Thanks.

:)

would you know love if the world was full of love? How could we differenciate good from bad if all there was was good? hmmm…