hate help: Anxiety and ranting about posting on help(dot)com. - Help.com

You shouldn’t take this place so seriously. It’s nice to be able to help people, but you can’t save everybody. I’ve learned to just help the people I can and let the rest go, confident in the fact that if I can’t help them then there is probably someone else here that can and will. I’ve also learned not to expect follow ups or “thank you”s, even though it’s nice when it does happen. This is just how I deal with this place. I’m sure everybody here has their own way of doing it.

yup i agree, i hate people

I understand.

I’ve had those moments when I say to myself “Hey, that’s what I said”, I try to remember the important thing is that someone was helped, even if they absorbed the help from someone else.

I can also relate to the runaway post, there are times that I completely regret replying to some post and have to unsubscribe for my own sanity.

I also agree that it is frustrating when the poster doesn’t update you and your left wondering if they resolved their problem.

I think if I can help just one person then it is worth it and I might not even be helping the poster, something I say might just help someone that is reading my reply and of course I will never know, but the idea of that, is a good feeling.

agreed

Awww…don’t worry about it times. Everyone is different and needs different kinds of help. You might not have the answer someone wants oneday and you might have the perfect answer for someone the next day. It doesn’t matter.
Same as if you unsubscribe….it doesn’t matter either…..they are not obligated to recieve, or even listen to your advice, you are not obligated to help anyone.
Just like everyday life in the world really!!!

Agree. I usually wait for the poster to come back. Maybe they are still trying to gather their thoughts on their situation and don’t know what to say yet. But as to those who never come back and leave the post open, totally spiteful especially if you are really concerned about it too. I have been here long enough to have seen them too. :D

And you know, like you take them seriously then the next time when a friend of their comment to the same post and you are totally forgotten as if you were not there. hehe. Seen that too.

But oh well. That’s okay hun. And yes, i also unsubscribe. I feel guilty about it too.

The fact that they are quiet after a great comment is a “Sign” that you’ve nailed them between the eyes i.e. “why didn’t I think of that, duh!” and so you get the silence response. Humans need communication and relationships but as one can see the lacking reciprocal communique leads one to think why they are having such issues in the first place….”unappreciative, ungrateful and inconsiderate”

These three qualities of the human soul are more pronounced in these End of Ages… one must proceed onward with the hope that all that is said goes forth and does good for the intended party minus any………..”considerations” for the sharer.

Just a note: I know your Posts does much good “Times” keep planting those seeds
and one day…you’ll happen by a Wonderful Full Tree that says, “Planted by Times’*gone mad*”

Thank you Times and may I add I feel the same way toward you… :)

Much Love!

Agreed…it validates that those posts were probably not legit!

I can’t fond my fancy hat :/

I meant to say fond

:’[

Dude, Help is just HELP; it’s not meant to be a full time job for anyone. (Except maybe KT1.)

Incidentally, I myself hate ending sentences with parenthetical references. Weird, huh?