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get rid of him until he grows up.

If you really do love him, you should talk to him about it. If you’ve thought this enough to post it, it’s obviously bothering you. If you don’t sort it with him, it’s going to be the thing that kills your relationship. So you have to be straight with him.
BTW, how long since he got fired? Is this short term depression, or is it just how he is?

tell him he needs to get off his lasyass and get a job ur sick of paying for his bad habits. tell him either he matures and stops acting like a kid, or ur leaving. it might help if someone else tells him, but coming from someone he loves might be the wakeup he needs.

honestly iv watched my sister go through this for 5 years now. her boyfriend went jobless for 2 years, did drugs for the first 3 years she met him and she did them too, just totaled his car cuz he was drunk, hes great at saving his money…. and spending my sisters.

guys that mooch off their girlfriends are embarrassing.

dont put up with it too long, you have to put your foot down at some time.

you cant keep supporting him like this.
i still think u should break up with him.
if hes forced to take care of himself for awhile, itll force him to grow up.

I dunno Ergg. What do you really want to do? Do you want your freedom? Or do you want him? I know the answer is probably both… What’s your gut feeling?
The debt is a worry though. I wonder what else he’s hiding? But in some ways it’s good - i know that sounds barking mad, but maybe that’s a sign that he doesn’t just want to live off you?
Someone once said… don’t know who. Men marry women thinking they won’t change, and they do. Women marry men thinking they’ll change, but they don’t. I know you’re not married, but it’s the same thing.

love isnt enough to sustain a marriage.

lmao.. i don’t know why girls like you even bother with guys like this. i am single right now but at least i have a job and keep in shape etc. i see girls all the time holding on to these dead beat boyfriends. It’s ridiculous…. Dump him and move on. You are not his mother, so don’t be. You can always take him back one day but dump his a**… lol

not really the time to state your opinion anon….

stop making excuses for him. you’re gonna end up broke as well.
anon is right, you are not his mother. force responsiblity on him, and maybe hell grow up.

Ergg, I can’t really give advice cos I don’t know you or him. It’s hard, cos you lose either way, you either have no money or no boyf and neither is good.
It’s not actually your problem that he has no money. It might be the kick up the backside he needs. Or it might be that you don’t see him again and spend the rest of your life missing him. But most probably it’ll be something in the middle.
But you should talk to him. Think through what you want to say. Don’t throw mud, but make it clear that you’re finding the expense of keeping him really hard. And if you decide it’s over, you have to harden your heart, grit your teeth and really throw him out.

Well, I’m afraid I agree with T. ‘you’ll have to decide if that is something you can live with’… If you’ve talked to him about it and got nowhere, you just have to make the call on whether you want to live like this forever or not. The only thing likely to change him is you leaving him to fend for himself. But it won’t be easy - let’s be honest here - and it may not make him change.

That is no way to talk to your girlfriend. He is using you.

Ergg! wrote:
I talked to him a little bit ago about it, and all he keeps saying, is “what do you want me to do about it.” He just doesnt get it..

AGGGGGHHHHH!

Ergg, what did you decide? Have you done anything? Or are you still thinking? (You don’t have to say if you don’t want to tho!)

Well done! That sounds really good. You found a decision and went for it. Really proud of you. Let me know how it works out if you want, I would be interested to know. :o)

good job! how’d he react??

Wow good for you!

Ergg! wrote:
Well, I talked to him last night and he kept giving me the run around so I thought to myself, This is my life, and I am the most important person here and I need to take care of myself… not him and basically told him how it is. I’m not gonna support him any more, i wont pay his bills any more and he is going to have to fend for himself. I explained that we werent married so i shoiuldnt have to sacrafice myself for him, and he needs to try to find the path to sucess and become more responsible before I can even consider getting serious with him again.

How does that sound???

LOL

just glad to see you happy Ergg :]