End it with Riley but be kind and everything, but at this point you need to focus on what’s good for you. Tell Riley to not go fight with Brayden or anything because that would be horrible. Make sure Brayden knows to not fight either. If you know it’s not working with Riley, and you know Brayden will make you happy again, do what you have to do. Tough love… hope this helps =]
Hi, THANKS! I will just be tough and tell Riley straight out.
You’re welcome… Don’t you hate it when there’s like love involved but you have to hurt somebody for it to work…? *sigh*… it’s been bugging me a bit.
Oh really? What is your situation? Anything I can help with?
AND YES! Hurting people is the worst thing ever. I don’t want to hurt them.
This guy has liked me for a yearrrr. I just found out that, I thought it had only been since summer. I just don’t like him like that but he is one of my best friends, seriously. My friends are my life and they don’t think me plus him would equal anything good. I can see us together but not now. I like someone else. He still likes me and I sit beside him in 3 classes and you can pretty much see his heart breaking and he even told me I broke his heart. I feel soooo so so bad because I try to be really nice and now I’ve caused this but I can’ help it! I tried to like him but it wasn’t me really liking him, I was pretending to make him happy, but I still liked Mr. Other Guy. I said my friends are my life and when I break one of their hearts, that kills me…
Sorry to dump all this on you… he was going to ask me out on my birthday and it got around that I would say no, but he threw me a surprise party [[which he knew was like me dream forever]] and it was great… he’s so good to me, but I feel sooooo awful…
You should break up with him, because leading him on is a horrible thing to do. In fact, I don’t want to scare you or anything, he’ll probably be really sad because he probably thinks everything is going to fine, but now you’re suddenly breaking up.
But it is for the best, the longer this goes on, the harder it will be when you tell him. But still be friends with him, like you should actually try talking to him the day after…he’ll probably either avoid you, or desperately try to fix things…
I’ve been through this, however, I’m the guy that’s heart get’s broken…but the other guy she likes…it’s ridiculous, so I suppose I have a better reason to be mad…
But good luck, have fun breaking his heart!
Rather “my dream forever” lol
Dear Aitlynn:
I so know what you mean! Riley buys me so much stuff after I told him no, we can’t date. But he says that he loves me and he wants to date me. Like you, I was trying to like him, but it just doesn’t work. I hate hurting his feelings though! And I like Brayden, and they hate eachother. Uhhhh, LOVE BITES SOMETIMES!!
Dear Lementing love:
I know how it feels to get dumped, IT SUCKS, Sorry it happened to you. But I really don’t like Riey in that way, I like Brayden more. I wish Riley would just say to me “I don’t like you anymore” That would make life SO much eaiser.!!
Kind of off topic but: Even though you may not like someone, do you still like the attention they give you? This guy who likes me, I know that he likes me, and…idk… it makes me feel good to know that someone comes to school everyday and notices ME…… or is that just me being insane?
Can I just ask you, have you been leading him on? Like, acting like you like him?
Yeah, I know it is terrible, but I REALLY don’t want to hurt him. I just want him to be happy. I guess this was even worse than just flat out ssaying I don’t like him in that way.
Since you are a guy, do you think he will still be my friend after all this?
WOOO!!! I’m FINALLY finished with spanish homework… I need sleep… Thanks for talking, good luck to you guys! =]
Lamenting Love, are you still there?
yes, i’m just writing a semi-long post
XD
Oh, ok!
So, tell me about how the girl broke up with you, if you feel comfortable with saying, and also, do you think Riley will be my friend after this?
Hmm… it’s tough to say.
I’m guessing you have been leading him on. Yes, that was a worse thing to do than just tell him right at the start that you don’t like him that way. But you can’t really do anything about that, now can you?
After you tell him, like I already said, he’ll probably ignore you, but will also be desperately trying to fix things because he will think that you really did like him, so that if you did like him, your relationship will be fixable. So when you do tell him, make sure he knows there’s no chance of you getting back together, not in a mean way…
Don’t leave it open. I’m still in confusion about my problem, she said ‘later’ we can go out…but now after being on this site for a bit, she might have been saying that to make me feel better
But when you do break-up with him, still talk to him the same amount you did while you were going out. Maybe not that day or the next, but a few days after, text him first, or call or whatever. Still be best friends if possible.
I’m gonna warn you though, he’ll probably be thinking about this for a very long time, at least a month.
I know you were just trying to not hurt him, but you should realize what you did is really dirty/mean, even if you didn’t mean too.
hmm…once again, might be a few mins to answer ur post…
He’ll defenitely want to be friends with you still, just might be a few days till you get back to that…
hang on, gotta copy/paste my huge story lol…
abought 3 weeks ago, we started talking a lot. we had known about each other for about 2 weeks before that…we go to the same school, so I see her everyday…anyways, she got my phone number from my friend, and we started talking…we would stay up till like 3 in the morning talking…eventually, it came out that I liked her…even though it was accidental, it was a good thing…so that after talking about this at school, we went to the movies that friday night…everything went great, and after that we spent like all night talking again, but it seemed more…personal. So after this, it seemed like we’d be together for sure, right? wrong. I haven’t told you the backstory… which shall be continued in my next post lol…
alright, so, plot twist, she’s my best friend’s ex. It’s been about 2 or 3 months since they broke up, and they only went out for a week. But still, now he’s her best friend, even though she isn’t his, she goes to him to tell him things that she needs to talk about, or she did, it seems like they’re fine now…ANYWAYS, that’s one of the reasons we aren’t together, because if we ever did break up, then she’d want to tell him about it, and she knows she can’t because he’d tell me what she said because we’re best friends…He’s really fine with it too, because she’s kind of been leading him on for these past few months, without realizing she’s been doing it. so he was pissed, but not so much with me…he actually wants,er, wanted me to go out with her, but it doesn’t seem like that’ll happen anymore…so all that, and she thinks things’ll be awkward between us 3, but they wouldn’t have been…BUT WAIT, yes, there’s more…
she’s been talking to this guy on the internet for 2 years…recently, when her and my friend were going out, she realized that she ‘loves’ him, and all she wants is this guy. So you’d think she wouldn’t go out with anyone else, or even make it seem like she wanted to if all she wanted was him…so that’s the other reason, she likes this guy so much. but what pisses me off is that she only knows him on the internet. I mean, they talk on the phone and stuff, but they’ve never met in person. And they won’t for four years, he’s going to drive down here when she graduates…4 years from now… and he’s also 19 and she’s almost 15… *cough* pedo *cough* XD. but still, she insists that he’s the one for her…
some things/feelings might have changed by now, but you get the picture…
OMG!!!!!
WOW!! I hope I am not doing that, k, tomorrow I am breaking it off with Riley RIGHT away! I hope I don’t hurt him, and future notew, I will NOT lead ANYONE on ever again, it is MEAN! Sorry that happened to you!
Anyway, my Mom is nagging me to go to bed. I hope i can talk to you later. Buii
mmk c-ya, hope everything goes well…ttyl…
THANKS! You were a big help. I hope you get better from the whole Breakup!! Anyway, Good night.
Thanks for sharng your story!
Haha, I don’t think that is a great idea though, I will get the Player rep.
AWESOME! He so understands, i don’t think he cried! YAY!!
I am really happy. I am glad he understands were I am and how I feel about it! So, how was your day? Anything happen with that girl or anything?
I don’t have school this week, winter break, I did im her, but just to tell her our best friend’s grandpa died, and she already knew, so i just left her a frown face, then an angry face, and signed off…
I’m kinda ticked because I don’t know if she feels sad about not being with me or not. It seems like it, but then again, I can’t ever tell…
And how did he say he understands? Did he kinda look down, or wat?
so, you guys still friends?
Well, he said “I understand that you are not rfeady to date me, it is all cool” Then he was talking to me like nothing happened. I am so happy nothing bad happened!!
So, maybe she isn’t the right person, there are so many great girls in this world, so you will find a good one! One that doesn’t make you feel bad all the time, or unsure. Good luck!
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