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Hey, I think I can help you feel better.

I was exactly the same way before I kissed a girl, I was scared to do it.. but when it happened it was totally natural and wasn’t awkward at all. Just don’t force it. Don’t think too much about it.

just don’t worry relax and if you don’t feel confortable tell him. Take it slow, I have been going out with my girlfriend for nine months now and all we have done is make out. There isn’t a need to go farther if you don’t feel ready. And it took me 3 months to get my first kiss, this is from the same girl.

i just turned 18 also and i have to say that i respect people that hold out but i do have to tell you that you missed a whole lot of fun growing up…theres a feeling once u start out like you shake alot and become all nervous but once you have done somethig a few times it becomes normal…its an amazing feeling and relax i’ve relized myself there is no need to get embarrased..we are only 18…life goes on and years go by

Hey manifoldcuriosit, it’s hard for me not to think to much about something, my mind never stops, i have to take sleeping meds for that actually lol, but thanks for the advice anyways.

hockeymaniac500, did your girlfriend act a little weird when you did kiss for the first 3 months? like im scared they might think i dont like them or something.. and as for the making out thing, does she try to push you to go further?

w1zard0fth30o, that’s the thing, i feel like now that im done highschool i have to be able to do more, i should have had the practice then, but i had a small school, and a small community, so everyone knows everyone and it gets really hard to do anything if you dont want to be talked about.

no she didn’t act very weird I told her it would be my first kiss and I wanted to make it really special, she was alright with that and waited. As for pushing me she has before and I just talked to her and now we are on the same page and we are getting a litle more but we decided if you go to fast it ruins relationships, so we decided to go slow and everything is amazing. So, what I recommend is just talking to your next special someone

well its not weird.. or embarrassing a french kiss is just basicly sticking your tung in there mouth lol take your time if need be and if the guy really feels it for yeah he wont be upset with you if you tell him your not so experanced with kissing.. i personally rather be with a girl whos not kissed much then has kissed every guy she met

Communication is key. You can let him know, and a decent guy will understand and may even make it fun. Like exploring.

lol not many guys understand or are decent and not many girls are like that

You don’t have to end the relationship. Just tell him you are not ready. Don’t force yourself to do something if you are in ready too. But don’t be so scared that you never do anything it comes natural.

hockeymaniac500 I find its easier for guys to say that to a girl cuz girls like to have a guy with sensitivity like that, but it’s a lot harder for a girl to say that to a guy cuz i find most guys are a lot more pushy, no offense to any guys out there
DarenRobinson23 thats the prob, i don’t know how to tell the guy and not many guys would be ok with it
RckyMtnCoastie I agree with Darren, not many guys are decent or would understand…
Kentuckygirl07200 I’m scarred they wouldn’t understand and then think of me different..

****, i forgot to anon it.. my bad

I say that even if guys are more pushy and so they don’t understand just end it because then you have a real reaon but if he understands then it would be a good person to stay with.

good point hockeymaniac500, you are totally right!
thanks :)

No problem If you need any help with other relationships or really anytihng just message me k? and I have hung out with girls for the last few years because I get annoyed with all the politics, so I understand how most of them act and feel.

really? well im the opposite, i hang with guys more then girls lol
so i know guys more then girls have the time lmao

I guess it’s less drama or whatever hanging out with the other gender.

definately

ya but now can I ask you something?

of course!

well my girlfriend has been acting a little strange lately and she has been really sad and she won’t talk to me or tell me what is wrong and I am worried about her because she has thought about suicide before and she tells me she would be dead if it wasn’t for me and I just need ways to try and cheer her up.

you know, tell her something like this, if you havent already:
Hey “name”, listen, you may not want to tell me what is going on, but I worry about you and I want you to know that no matter what it is, you can tell me.
That should cheer her up, if not it might help her open up a little more:)
hope that helps!

Sadly, I already tried that. It didn’t help at all =/

really?? now that is weird.
well, i wish i could help you more, but i dont really know her, so it’s hard to tell..
maybe just give it some time and keep a close watch. make sure you call daily and if ever she seems like shes ready to open up give her time and dont interrupt.