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Which is better — talking or listening?

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  1. talking
  2. listening
  3. don’t know / other

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Richard cor de lyon offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 40 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (0 minutes after post)

God gave us 2 ears but only one mouth for a reason :)
Bright blessings ~ Richard

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lostlobster offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Littleton, CO, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Nothing would be accomplished if we all spoke ignorantly, or if we were all just quiet
and looked at each other waiting. balance i guess?

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JOE!1! offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Pine Grove Mills, PA, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

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GinInTeacups offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Southend-on-Sea, M5, GB | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

I don’t think one is better than the other.
What’s most important to me is knowing the right time to talk, and the right time to listen.

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lostlobster offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Littleton, CO, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

..A task that gets harder with each drink

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melt offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

you wouldn’t know what to say if you didn’t listen

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{Felicity} offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 124 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

I always try to seek balance in all I do.It works well for me.

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dead-flowers offline Unverified User #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

I agree with all of you! ;P

(can’t vote and/or see the results myself :O — anybody feel like copy / pasting them below?)

Thanks for playing!

:D

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jejs1997 offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Greeley, CO, US | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (48 minutes after post)

well it depends, its always great to listen to others and try as best you can to help them, but its way to self-destructive to keep your feelings bottled up, so i think its good to talk as well

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Richard cor de lyon offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 40 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 18 minutes after post)

Poll Results:

1. talking (0%, 0 votes)
2. listening (78%, 7 votes, your pick)
3. don’t know / other (22%, 2 votes)

;)

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dead-flowers offline Unverified User #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 23 minutes after post)

good point jejs — I like that!

and thanks, Rich! I’ve thought alot about your comment — it’s funny, really….

Mr. Eyescream is a good friend of mine :D

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dead-flowers offline Unverified User #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 55 minutes after post)

since no one seems to be “voting” for talking — I’m wondering:

1. do people think talking is bad?

>> Yes >> Why?

>> No >> Why / When is talking good — how can we promote talking (in general)?

2. if neither talking nor listening are good or bad “all the time”, then under which circumstances are they GOOD? is it possible to learn not only better “listening skills”, but also better “talking skills”? (note that I am not referring to “rhetorics” — in German, there is a fine distinction between “überreden” [argumentative “winning” statement] and “überzeugen” [convincing statement and/or bearing witness]).

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GinInTeacups offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Southend-on-Sea, M5, GB | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 22 minutes after post)

I think the basic idea is, Listen when someone’s talking, talk when someone’s listening. You need to do both to make a conversation, don’t you?

It’s important to speak out and put your opinions across. If you have problems you need to be able to communicate it to someone. And also, it’s all very well listening to someone elses issues but how are you really going to help them if you don’t open your mouth to give them advice?

I think talking gets a bad reputation because words cause alot of conflict. A word placed wrongly or misinterpreted, or even intentionally cruel words can cause huge arguments even if this is not what the speaker set out to do.

dead-flowers offline Unverified User #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 40 minutes after post)

I love it, Gin — that’s really beautiful!! :D

Also, IMHO: “your” problem is “my” problem — it’s actually our problem.

I think it’s this perspective issue that causes the most conflict, really. If 2 (or more) people know that “we’re in the same boat”, and that each person’s well being is also linked to the well being of others, then no one would really want to “win” an argument.

I think establishing such trust & confidence in other people is essential for having “good” discussions.

And I look forward to hearing more from others!

:D

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Fizz offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (6 hours, 33 minutes after post)

A combination of both is what is best.

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