Year help: My girlfriend of two years died just two weeks ago, today I was - Help.com

Oh i am so sorry to hear about your girlfriend. Is that really a rule in your place that calls to let you leave because the rented house is in her name?? what if you’d continue to pay it yourself, is it possible?

Hello, welcome to help.com, yes you are in the right place. Different people from all over the globe can drop by and rant on anything they want. This is an advice site and people will answer to your post when they are online or when they think they have the time to listen to your rant.

I feel your situation and i could not imagine how difficult it is for you now to face all these alone. The grief and loneliness among other things. Is there a friend to support you today like to just listen to you or who would do the talking with the landlord in your behalf? There might be an extra month that your girlfriend has paid so you can use it if there is while you are looking for a job or to just pull everything through.

losing someone you have held dear is very difficult. Take your time to grieve. Hang in there.

You know, one thing good thing about this site is i always find myself in other people. I too am not good with words—like explaining stuff about me, my concerns and putting them into words.

Pitty is not involved here. It is listening to someone who needs some ears. Keep us posted. :)

Emptiness, i know that word very much. take care hun.

Hello.

I’m very, very sorry to hear this. The best thing to do right now is to accept any help. Do you have a job?

Very sorry about your girl friend. Death of a loved one is in the top 5 stresses we face as humans. Doing what you are doing is probably the best medicine…talk about it, be as open as you can stand without worry of embarassment. Most people here at help.com are very gracious and care about those like yourself who face real issues. It will not be easy, and support from caring people will make it a little easier to deal with. Time will heal the hole that is now overwhelming you, try to get busy and think of what she would like for you to do. Never easy, but possible.

My Condolences to you…….

hey,i feel for you ,i really do.ive been going to counselling and that seems to help,(my gf died 4 weeks ago),also this website is a big help to me,there are lots of nice people on here.ive just been taking it a day at a time but it really shatters you doesnt it.

you weren’t wrong to laugh
best to find humor in any situation.

Joel Phantom wrote:
Sorry to hear about your girl mate, it does shatter you. Life as I know is over. Good advice counselling, i think group therapy might be more my thing, Can’t imagin anything would take away this emptyness in me.. Maybe this is the way I should feel I laughed yesterday and felt guilty, like it was disrespectful or something. Any ways keep in touch n let me know how your doing I hope you find a way to keep going.

hey i know what you mean,i feel guilty too when i laugh.my gf died 5weeks ago now and i still miss her like mad..every single day,i cant believe im never going to see her gorgous face again.it is getting slightly easier tho pal,and im sure things will get a bit easier for you given time.the counselling really does help mate,i got mine sorted through my g.p.good luck joel,my fingers are crossed for you to be feeling happier soon.

Hello, I am sooo sorry to hear this mate :/

Hang in there, we’re all here for you. = )

joel, i could not imagine such loss. i have never had a signifigant other pass, but know how much it must hurt. i’ve lost alot of family members tho, and have found that conceling is the way to go. there are alot of support groups out there for pretty much any kind of agony life seems to bring.

i sincerely hope that all of your effects get in order soon. and want to let you know that you’re certainly in my prayers.

if you ever want to talk, send me a shout. take care of yourself.

xxoxx

~ XcrystalinaX ~

i want to reply but i am just speechless… what are you going to do?

hello Joel, how is it going?

How you doing. what’s that in your glass. My glass has bourbon Whiskey.

Oh Joel, I am so very sorry for you at what can only be a very sad time. I have to say that you are truly a lovely person to attempt to emphathise with me on my problems… which see insignificant by comparison. It is an unfortunate fact of life that no matter how low you feel, how desolate, how much you wish the world would stop so you can get off…. it trundles on irrespective of your feelings. It is one of the most harsh realities of life and you find yourself staring this straight in the face. What can I say to help? Well… from your girlfriends point of view, I doubt she would want you to be desolate forever… yes a period of grieving is necessary but she would understand that you have to move forward you have no choice… your on the conveyor belt called life. Its painful and it hurst like hell but (and don’t want to sound hard) but it is transitory… take small steps Joel and you’ll find your joints become less stiff… lean on those closest to you that you know you can lean on… and trust that you will come out the other side …

this too shall pass. i promise. my advice? find the nearest quaker meetinghouse, and go. stand up and tell your story. you will have an entire room full of people looking out for you and helping you. (i go to a quaker school even though i am not quaker, and it always amazes me how incredibly welcoming and moving they are).

give it a try.

hey mate,it is a scary thing being alone again when youre not used to it,i hope you are coping with youre loss,im thinking of you pal,..all the best yeh and i hope things get easier for you

Your situation sounds really difficult. I hope you’re doing alright.
My advice for now is to just keep talking to people, stick around here, be around people. If you don’t like being alone, try and maybe join a club or something. Hang out with your friends. Don’t feel guilty about having fun.
From now on, though, I suggest you put your name on all documents…just to avoid something like getting kicked out again.
Well, I hope you’re doing okay. My condolences and best wishes to you.
Keep us updated ;)

I am so sorry to hear of your loss and those who have posted..
first things first, talk to your land lord and get an extension so that you can take care of where you are going with out haste. Second, keep searching for help like coming here, group therapy, there are councilors that deal with this and maybe some friends of your GF need it to and you can all get together for a session on this.

Its okay to laugh, infact I think you honor your GF by living for her. By laughing when she would… or seeing something from her point of view. As hard as it is, take the lesson of how presious life is and know that it is okay and you should enjoy yours ( when you are able) and you can grieve as well.

everything you are feeling is normal. Think about this too…. she left an incredible void in your life therefore, you also effect people just as profoundly as she did. So be kind, take your life and your effects on people serious and learn from this as hard as it is. Go smoke and have a brandy and toast to the good things she taught you.

Joel Phantom wrote:
Cheers mate I’m thinking of you too, didn’t realise your girl lost her life to suicide. I don’t know if you’ve heard about all the stuff thats been going on in bridgend, but were very much in the same boat. When I started this thread I could’nt bring my self to mention that she killed herself. Honestly I feel like it was the doctors that killed her. We went for help about a month before she died and they turned her away. Its so annoying cos I know how bloody hard it was for her to go, and I was so so proud of her, but she didn’t get the help she went for, she left feeling far worse than when she went in (both times). Anyways I hope your holding up alright. Take care.

hey i feel very angry towards doctors as well,very simular circumstances i feel.i hope you dont mind me asking this but was it you who found her?i found my girl dead ,i was arrested by police as i was the last to see her alive.i had just found phil dead and i was put in a cell for 6 hours was horrible ,im still on bail pending further inquiries(autopsy results) its just “police procedure “apparently.but anyway im getting over it very slowly,you will to but its always gonna hurt a lil bit,at least thats how i feel and il never stop missing her,all the little things i wanna tell her ,need to tell her-who do i tell these things to now.take care

hey I’m really sorry about your girlfriend, I can’t imagine a loss like that, but thanks for the help on my issue, even though i still don’t know what to do, any support helps.
i’m really sorry

hi, your pic is really cute

Dear Joel,
Im so sorry to hear that.
I hope you are smiling as much as you can,
not the fake kind, but the ones that really mean something.

i lost my dad 3 years ago, it was sudden, and i had to mind my mom aswell, its completely autopilot for a while, but when your down just remember they need you, and when you get past the worst periods you’ll feel like you can handle anything, best of luck to you sweetheart you’ve had a tough run of it lately, just bear it for now its the best you can hope for, it’ll get better, life has a funny way of doing that