What concerns them about you?
Endur wrote:
What concerns them about you?
They’re worried because I’ve been withdrawing socially. But it’s just my way of dealing with problems so that noone else need be effected.
I’m in a similar situation. I just smile and tell everyone I’m fine. I don’t want them to worry and they can’t help anyway, it’s all you can do really :/
Why are you withdrawing from them socially?
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if they can help you, i suggest you let them. They’re your friends and they want to help you. You have no idea how much it helps to have someone to talk to about your problems. However, if they really cannot help you with a problem, then there is no need to let them in. in which case you can tell them that you’re fine and deal with it on your own.
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Matt hurts… wrote:
I’m in a similar situation. I just smile and tell everyone I’m fine. I don’t want them to worry and they can’t help anyway, it’s all you can do really :/
I know right… you think that would be enough! but my friends are persistant.
I get a text today from a friend saying he’s really worried about me & wants to get lunch/dinner. but i know if he’s worried he’ll turn the dinner/lunch into a huge ordeal & i’ll feel interogated.
it sucks because on one hand i want to say you know, don’t worry about me, i’m fine. but that would be a lie. at the same time, i can’t stand being put in the spotlight about it.
Sorry…missed the response. I agree with BHM86, whenever we alter from the norm, good friends will notice and question us out of concern. Let them know you can discuss in the future…but that right now you don’t want to.
Endur wrote:
Sorry…missed the response. I agree with BHM86, whenever we alter from the norm, good friends will notice and question us out of concern. Let them know you can discuss in the future…but that right now you don’t want to.
okay thank you. i didn’t think of that.
so when he asks i’ll just tell him i need to put my thoughts togetehr before talking to anyone about it.
just tell them that they have nothing to be concerned about and that you are just taking some time to think things through and you just need some time. if they’re true friends they will respect you. if they’re not tell them to bugger off.
inaboxbythestep wrote:
Matt hurts… wrote:
I’m in a similar situation. I just smile and tell everyone I’m fine. I don’t want them to worry and they can’t help anyway, it’s all you can do really :/
I know right… you think that would be enough! but my friends are persistant.
I get a text today from a friend saying he’s really worried about me & wants to get lunch/dinner. but i know if he’s worried he’ll turn the dinner/lunch into a huge ordeal & i’ll feel interogated.
it sucks because on one hand i want to say you know, don’t worry about me, i’m fine. but that would be a lie. at the same time, i can’t stand being put in the spotlight about it.
I often feel the same way, especially with my family as of late. I’ve had some rough times I’ve needed to deal with and I’ve avoided talking to them. I know if I try to they will just grill me about it and I will feel really uncomfortable, but if I lie I feel guilty.
Matt hurts… wrote:
I often feel the same way, especially with my family as of late. I’ve had some rough times I’ve needed to deal with and I’ve avoided talking to them. I know if I try to they will just grill me about it and I will feel really uncomfortable, but if I lie I feel guilty.
I know, I can relate to you so much. What are you suppposed to do tho when you’re looking out for everyone else by sparing them your drama? =/
inaboxbythestep wrote:
Matt hurts… wrote:
I often feel the same way, especially with my family as of late. I’ve had some rough times I’ve needed to deal with and I’ve avoided talking to them. I know if I try to they will just grill me about it and I will feel really uncomfortable, but if I lie I feel guilty.
I know, I can relate to you so much. What are you suppposed to do tho when you’re looking out for everyone else by sparing them your drama? =/
It’s tough, its really hard to try to find like a balance between doing what you know you need to do to take care of yourself and doing what you know is best for those around you. A close friend of mine often asks me how I’m doing and I want to tell her but we are so close and I would never want to have her worrying about me. She’s so happy I don’t want to ruin that. I just keep things to myself, or come post about them on here hehe.
Matt hurts… wrote:
It’s tough, its really hard to try to find like a balance between doing what you know you need to do to take care of yourself and doing what you know is best for those around you.
Yes, you’ve pegged that feeling exactly!
Matt hurts… wrote:
I just keep things to myself, or come post about them on here hehe.
& i guess that’s what help.com was created for. free therapists lol.
Yeah it’s nice to know some people out there want to help like they do on here. But even then, I still don’t post much about my problems and only when I absolutely have to get it out. I don’t want even strangers to have to deal with my drama and problems. I guess that’s all what a significant other is for heh, unfortunately that’s a bit of a problem too at the moment. I can definitely relate to how people always say things get bottled up inside.
Sometime we miss the point of the matter! just cause you see in the outside your friend(s) look very happy even in the home everything about them may seem perfect, if your friend keeps insisting to help you they may need your help more than you think, if you really care about them witch Im sure you do, talk over Dinner or Lunch. There is a hidden message we may not be seen. talk to them you don’t have to reveal to much let them know you are concerned about them to they may be keeping something from you, you think?.
ups! sorry I wrote witch instead of which. lol Didn’t mean to.
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My friends are worried about me.
I don’t know what to do or say to ease their tension. But i don’t want to pull them into my problems either. How should I handle their concern?
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