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What happened? from the sound of it you were being a trusting good gf with dreams and stuff. Which in my book doesnt make you an idiot.

what did you let him do?

what happened? *hugs tight* youre not an idiot, i promise you that..

heyy dont be sorry! guys do that type of thing all the time,, and its always us who feel like the fool right? well dont hes the bast*rd whos treat u like this, i know its gunna be hard break ups are but keep your head high and turn to one of us or a close friend for support im always here if you need to talk though ive been through similar situations xxxx

To suddenly spring that on you right after spending some wonderful time together is a bit strange and very unfair to you. From what you mentioned it sounds like he may have some emotional difficulties. If he is jumping around from one mood to the next it may have more to do with some internal stresses rather than the relationship. Although he may love you, he may also be fighting some demons and find that the weight of it all crushing… including any positive expectations you both share. It may be that any additional stress in his life, (future plans and commitment), might be a burden to your relationship. I just think it is odd he would suddenly decide to call it off like that especially if you shared some special moments and resolved some issues. In a situation like this I would suggest to back away from him and put up a barrier. Don’t try to help him figure out why he doesn’t want to commit - it will wear you down and drag itself out. Distract yourself with other activities and protect yourself and your feelings. The ups and downs or the roller coaster thing never works for anyone. You really shouldn’t have to keep expecting this kind of treatment for yourself. Don’t let his feelings hang over you like a heavy, cloud and get away or rise up out of it as soon as possible. You deserve to be happy and healthy Sarah.

you know.. it sucks but be happy that it all came out now instead of later. if it happened later you would have been stuck with a house you bought and a ton of invested money that could be saved instead. maybe you shold wait it out and let him figure out his life for right now. try to keep yourself busy with things that you like doing in the meantime. you should move on from him and there is gonna be someone out there that is perfect for you that you will find one day :)

Only you can know what feels right for you. I think because his moods may change frequently you may just have to look after yourself and protect your feelings. It can truly be wearing on you to be hurt like that so much of the time. From what you mentioned just keep in mind that it isn’t you… there may be something overwhelming going on with him. If you feel you are on the right track to a loving and healthy relationship then you know what you want out of it. It might be that he is probably feeling some kind of depression and doesn’t know where to place the blame and so the relationship could be the first thing that comes into question for him. From my own experience - when something has changed in the way I feel I tend to focus on the most recent, major change in my life. Whether or not it has anything to do with the way I feel inside, I try to figure out if it is the cause for my feelings of insecurity, or on the positive, security (if that makes any sense?) I have a friend offline that went through something quite similar to what you are going through.