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It wouldn’t hert to talk to tour mom about it. If she doesen’t take you seriously then isent ther a school nerce of a giuidence counciler that you could talk to.

well if u been that way since 5, it may be chemical. or it may be a hard life. but it aint normal. whatever ti is, u need to talk to ur mom bout this. u may be surprised at how she acts. if u talk to yer mom u can get a psychiatrist or somethin and maybe get anti ds, depending on wether its suitble. but u will get treated anywho.. good luck with it.

medication for depression should really be a last resort. why do you think you need drugs to help with your depression? it’s like taking the elevator when you can walk the stairs. very few people absolutely need to take the elevator. don’t take it upon yourself to decide you need medicating. maybe a psychologist can figure out the root to your depression and help you figure out how to deal with it.

friends can really help… even if they can’t solve your problems, they can help fill the emptiness which was the root of mine.

i would also recommend going to a school guidance counselor. in my experience, they dont try to pry, they let your pour your heart out, and they will only tell your parents if what you tell them is illegal or life threatening. I told my guidance counselor something that couldve gotten two people suspended and possible one person arrested, but she didnt tell anyone because i told her not to. its your best bet. you probably dont want to go to your mom, there is a good chance she will not take you seriously.

as for your religion problem, is she a hardcore christian? could you speculate what her reaction would be like? would she be angry?

I’m not sure if this is what you meant by not wanting to talk to anyone at school, but like my high school had a school psychologist that you could go see and it was totally confidential. That was 10 years ago, so maybe it has changed, but that is probably who I would have seen if I didn’t want to talk with my parents.

I also wanted to add that since I going through some depression myself and am trying to figure stuff out, that it helps to try to find the root cause of your feelings. If you have felt this way for awhile, maybe it is beyond that, but if you want to try to do this without school, family, or friends help, just think to yourself if you could change anything in your life, what would you to make yourself happy…would anything do that? If they are big things, are there small things you can do to move towards those outcomes? Could your mom help you achieve these changes? Just a thought.

Hey Cryi,

I think your mom would understand if you went to her and said “Mom, I need to talk to you. I feel so sad all the time.. I don’t feel happy for anything. I would really like some help from someone professional. I feel like I need to start being me again.”

I think a heartfelt plea for genuine help wouldn’t make her think less of you.

I’m not saying this is the right way to deal with this, but just talking to people on this website helped me with my depression. Also, God can do wonders for you.

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