friends help: im in year 9 at a really big high school in manchester Uk and even though ive been there 3 years Im still reallly really shy. - Help.com

make a goal. Say your going to talk to one person that day, and ask them what time is. Everyday start trying to put youself out there! I used to be really shy to, and now people describe me as outgoing. I never thought that would happen. I know how you feel, scared of speaking. And its really not fair. The truth is sometimes you will say something stupid… but just be able to laugh at yourself, and people will be more likely to accept you. i hope everything works out. :)

if you will take some time all by yourself and write on a sticky post it and write on it, i am whole, i am perfect, i am loving , i am lovable, i am healthy, i am happy. also put one in your purse, now every time you are at your mirror youlook in your eye and tell yourself, i love you and feel it inside your soul and repeat your list to yourself. say these just to yourself self several times a day and do it with a big smile on your face. before you know it youll have so many friends your head will spin.
you see your shy, and it has nothing to do with what others think, its what you think, you dont believe in your self.
well, you should love and respect you, for you were created by the almighty god in his perfect image and he loves and believes in you so you should to.
so put a smile on your face, stand up tall and believe in yourself, god does and so do I, you have a wonderful life ahead of you, so believe and you shall see.
god bless you

I used to be very shy when i was at school, but it really did get better with time. A lot of things will happen in your life and i’m sure a few of them will change the way in which you speak and act. Being shy is not a bad thing, sometimes i wish i could keep my mouth shut and not say somethings.

Give it time, as with all things, Time changes a lot.

p.s I come from Manchester, moved away tho….miss it :(

i know how u feel. i’m just like that and there are only 700 people in my school. it will get better as you get older and you start to do different things that will give you more confidence.

I think you should find an activity there that you like, and then search for people who like that activity as well. You’re sure to get along with them, if you like the same things. Being confident wont happen in a day, but if you get out there and communicate with people a little bit, day by day you’ll get better at socializing until youre comfortable talking with strangers. You most likely just havent adjusted to your surrounding yet. If theres something or someone that makes you uncomfortable when you talk, just find out why it makes you like that, and defend against it. What you shouldnt do however, is try to change yourself so they’ll accept you, you’ll meet alot of people, sure, but they’ll never know you, for who you are. If you keep putting effort into it and just keep a positive outlook, you’ll fit in in no time.
best wishes to you!