live help: Can i live with the bad images of my girlfriends death? - Help.com

Yes, that’s the easy, but honest answer.

I have had images of a loved ones death, they do ease up.

You can. But you need to grieve. You need to learn how to deal with things.

What do you mean images? Can you tell us how she died, if that’s the problem? Try to see her as an angel.Your angel.

My heart goes out to you.

Well its perfectly normal. To go through such a traumatic experience like that.

I should congratulate you on your bravery, but i know thats not what you want to hear.

You are doing the right thing by getting professional help. You need to grieve properly in order to deal with this.

But usualy the case is, we all need something that keeps us going and helps us.

Some people have love, faith, hope. Some people turn to God. Or pursue ways of contacting the person.

You can be with your family right now, or friends.

I have mentioned a few things. You should try to pick one or more of them to help you through this. You shouldn’t be alone at a time like this.

I know that it can be demeaning for someone to tell you they will based on their own experience, but I’m sorry I have to say……

My father killed himself, so often I’ve had the image of his blood and brains splattered on the wall, sorry to be so graphic, but I want you to know that I do understand.

Those images do fade, I’m sorry to say, but it just takes time.

Honey,for your own good,don’t compare your suffering to your g-friends’.Even if it were a relative,it doesnt mean we will suffer the same suffering or demise.After all, we cant’ know what she was going through.If it were drugs etc…and you are going down the same road,then ya,it could happen.Thats always a dead end.No doubt about it.

I think she could. Definately.

I don’t know if you believe in the afterlife. But i believe she can hear you now. I think she would have known anyway.

Important things arent missed in times such as those.

36hours…i definately think she heard. I’m sure she knew how much you loved her.

Your lucky to have such a good mother inlaw. Its good that you are close too. Its good to have someone like that who understands.

There is hope that she did hear you and you can hang on to that hope and (I hate to say this word again) in time you will be able to smile or laugh when you are reminded of a happy time you had together or some quirky thing she used to do.

I went to support groups, but I tell you it seemed all they wanted was to mark the anniversary and wallow in the death.

My father deserved better then that, he deserves to have his life celebrated and that’s what I try to do.

I hope you get there, sooner rather then later.

Yes, maybe not exactly, but when I got married . It was so painful that my Daddy wouldn’t be there to walk me down the isle like he had my sisters.

I wrote a poem about him being there in spirit, but truthfully I didn’t really feel it until later. Looking at the pictures, you know the ones where the bride stands in front of the mirror, well, the picture showed something in the mirror that was transparent. Honestly, I don’t believe in ghost persay, but I had this strong feeling that it was my Dad and that he was there with me.

Oh well, I guess that wasn’t exactly what you meant.

Actually i am a spiritualist. I believe that our loved ones to come back to give us signs. That they aren’t just gone.

I think they are as much alive as they were before. Its just that we cant see them right now.

Stuff like that happens to me all the time. I am medically sane! Just for the record.

But i have seen people who are spirits. And i have had ’signs’. I believe in it 100%.

Can you die with them?

Why dont you seek out a medium so you can put it behind you and realize that she is still alive just not in a body right in front of you anymore. When you see that she still exists then you can focus on what is here and now and not hang on to the last memory you had which happens to also be super painful. Talk to her. Put out some powder on a desk or something and ask her to write in it with just some fingerstrokes or something. Ask for a bilboard that matters or to tlak to you in some radio songs. Py attention to the clock times when you happen to glance at them. You just gotta replace the current thought s with new ones that are more positive. And all that lame hard to accept just be happy crap. I cant imagine your pain. I never lived through that. But, she is still alive and still very much herself so research that out I would.

I was gonna kill myself. I had it planned. But before I drove 10 hours to a medium conference. I said to God and who ever else angels peoples etc on the other side that I was going hope for a sign that my life mattered or else I was outtie. At the conference the medium was talking to a lady two people down from me, their dad was coming through but then he stopped and said, ” Your dad wants me to acknowledge the someone to your right that is contemplating suicide.” I wanted to shrink, and die I never realized that I would be so embarrassed in that crowd, but they handed me a mic and told me to stand up when I was sobbing and obviously the person. I was told that I mattered and that if I did kill myself, I would be more trapped and that it isnt a solution.

Im glad your post helped me remember that.

I hope you find comfort when and where you need it, I tell you I wouldn’t wish this on anyone, it’s a long hard road.

Inner Strength seems to be my key words for today, but I see inner strength in your words.

See :)

She is there. Whenever its the anniversary of my grandads death i light a candle for an hour or so. Just as a mark of respect. But i don’t grieve the day. I know he’s looking after me in the way in which he can.

I wish I could stay around longer, but I have to go very soon.

Please feel free to shout to me, if ever you feel the need.

Hey, sorry i had to go last night. The little one was a bit sick and poorly and had to rush off without saying bye.

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i had a friend kill himself the same way. my sophmore year in high school i have jsut recently graduated. The images and pain of sadness fade. It does sadly take time. and from what i read you are doing fine. its tramatic i know. the best thing is to always remember her adn times you had with her. talk about her to people keep her spirit alive. it will get you through hard times. and i believe that the “wierd” things that are happening to you that you believe is her just maybe her. the same happened to me, when i was young i would see things, usually after family memebers had passed in my family, adn i never believed my aunt when she told me that i had a gift. then my friend matt, killed himself and i saw him and each day got easier and i can still remember what it looked like if i wanted but i choose not to. you must choose not to see her that way but as she was when she was happy with you. And dont let yourself follow a path that she had. She wont want that for you, she be there for you at your time and now its not time. just tell her you lvoe her everyday she can hear you and she can “talk” back to you. just learn to listen

Sorry if you felt like I ran off and left you. Hope you are alright.