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I’m so depressed right now.

It’s been 2.5 years since my ex and I broke up. And he’s gone to paris to go school abroad, and he’s meeting all these girls. We both haven’t dated anyone since we’ve broken up. And about 2 months ago I come to a realization that he’s really over me. We always have these random intimate moments though. And then sometimes when we hang out he’ll do something that just reminds me that we’re just friends. It makes me so confused and it makes me not able to move on. I’m trying to live my life and it’s been so hard. I have alot of stuff I have to do for school and I can’t focus on it at all. Today I did practically nothing at all. For the past 5 hours I’ve been lying in bed just thinking about what will happen in the next 3 months while he’s gone. I don’t know what to do. I’m really down. Can someone cheer me up?

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~Shie~ offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 143 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

you have to start thinking of you… start the process of moving on… i know its hard.. but its been 2.5 years… now its time to do something for yourself..

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notax offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 9 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

If you focus on what someone else is doing, rather than yourself, how can you make yourself happy? The only way you can become happy is if you let yourself and work on it.

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sheakerbean offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Manitowoc, WI, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

watch old movies like the holiday inn, that is the best old movie ever. i have it saved on my DVR so i can watch it when i’m really depressed or just had a bad day. they can be lame at first but then you get sucked into it and fall in love with it

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redstr0 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

I know it’s been 2.5 years….but I was so sure that we would be together. He was by best friend. And it’s so hard now because I haven’t let him go, and I don’t want to. And I don’t know what I’ll do when it finally happens….when one of us finally jumps into a new relationship. I’m afraid of it. And I feel like it’s going to happen soon…at the rate that he’s going with meeting all these girls, he might just meet someone out there. And I’m only hoping that he doesn’t. And that sad part is I’ve been calling him. I know it’s pathetic.

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redstr0 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (16 minutes after post)

Thanks for the words of encouragement and push.

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Loving_it offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Bloomfield Hills, MI, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (17 minutes after post)

:(

i hope this doesn’t happen to me

:(

good luck feeling better…

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amandajames offline Unverified User #
Anderson, SC, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (24 minutes after post)

i don’t know what to tell you because if i knew the answer to your question i might be better able to answer mine. just know that the crappiness can’t possibly last forever and the more you distract yourself the more likely you are find something that will take your mind away from it permanently.

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redstr0 offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Los Angeles, CA, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (27 minutes after post)

Thank you amanda james. Yea I wish I knew the answer too. And I am trying to distract myself. Once in a while I get thinking about it and then I go far into thinking about it and I lose touch with the other stuff that’s going on in my life and then my mind is focused only on him. Thanks again. I’m starting to feel better with the response I’m getting.

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cerv offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Vancouver, BC, CA | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

Enjoy life one day at a time. Focus on the now. Live in the now not the past.

Go read a book called Hagakure. Google it and you’ll find an online version.

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