life help: Am I a loser for being a girl?

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Am I a loser for being a girl?

Many women in the world aren’t treated equally in the world and also I don’t get many nice people in my life. A lot of guys also look down on me and try to control me, like theyre superior to me.

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crazyG 171 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (53 minutes after post)

Just when you feel some one is looking to you as if he is superior then you can say to your self like in your mind “i’m as good as you are” “i’m as good as you are” and repeat that for a hundred time untill you believe it!and then you can face the whole world. people see what you believe in your self and believe it too. so you have to believe that you are as good as them first.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

no…………. you are as good as anyone and amazing and beautiful in your own way.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 15 minutes after post)

Yeah you should be proud to be a woman!

These guys, are idiots! Please dont think that you are lower than them because you are not.

They don’t deserve you. Dont let them treat you like that!

You are as of value as any other person on this planet. Do not let no man or woman think you are not.

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Khalivarsha² 14 #
Minneapolis, MN, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 22 minutes after post)

As long as you are not in that part of the world where women are treated as property or second class citizens, you should know that being a woman doesn’t make you a loser.
Also, you may have very few nice people in your life and have a lot of people look down on you, but there are lots of women who have lives filled with wonderful people and are looked up to by others. I’ve known women that I would say are superior to the large majority of humans I’ve met, regardless of gender.

Being a woman does not make you a loser. If you feel like a loser, it’s probably a personal thing. Don’t blame your gender; go out and fix your life.

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jejs1997 8 #
Greeley, CO, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (12 hours, 40 minutes after post)

You shouldnt believe that. Not all guys are like that, and I’ve never viewed a woman as inferior to me. You just need to change your outlook to something more positive. Good things are sure to follow! You arent a loser, and you are not inferior,
just take those thoughts and abondon them somewhere, you’ll be just fine

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Anonymous #
9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

how come in some countries they treat women as second class citezens?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

Because of the culture and the way it has/hasn’t developed.

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Anonymous #
9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

maybe I just don’t come across many guys who treat me good. So many come to me and treat me with such little respect it does make me feel like it’s all I can get and ever will.

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Greeley, CO, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

Thats not all you can get, you shouldnt think that. It could just be the place, Try finding a guy outside of that place. Alot of the reasons those guys are acting like that could be because of the people around them. People dont seem to act like themselves around their “group”.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 week, 5 days after post)

You are not a loser, but your statement was that of a defeatist(?) Now, this is my opinion from observations I have made(which could be erroneous). Many smart or brilliant young ladies have boyfriends that are losers or shall we say confused. Every generation wants or has their own culture and to be “different”, most become members of their peer group “culture” making them unique in their eyes, creating a look of “sameness” to those outside said culture, i.e. wearing hats backwords, sideways, or hair styles, etc. My only advise is to be the best you can be, young ladies you do not need a male in your life, you have one because you WANT one, you are not inferior, but you will face the “glass ceiling” during your career. There is nothing I personally like better than to see a young lady who is doing what she wants, is successful at it and enjoying her life. Never live life in debt and basing your material accomplishment on your future earnings, debt is hell if unmangeable on your income. Material things or toys are great but don’t ruin your life over them. Your education can never be taken away from you, so get it out of the way as fast as possible and enjoy the benefits, travel for a year, whatever, do not put yourself in a position to live a life of regret. Love is great, but can be fleeting, men are like buses, there is always another one coming along in 15 minutes. Make you happy, your life journey will always have your along for the ride and not necessarily anyone else.

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