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So, I have a problem.

I used to cut. It’s been a few years. Bad time of my life but now I’m over it and I totally realize how wrong cutting is and how truly idiotic it seems. But I feel separated from people that haven’t, or wouldn’t understand. It’s difficult to put into words. I have a scar that I hide and nobody knows about it. But I feel it there all the time. I am not ashamed of it because I feel like it means I went through something and it is healed now. But most others cannot possibly view it that way. I feel like it separates me from people. And while my friends talk about petty problems, I just feel weird. I cannot relate. What I’m asking is, do other people that have cut in the past feel this separation from those who dont? And how do you get over it?

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NothingMore offline Verified User (10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Biggs, CA, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

I have that same problem. I used to hangout with people who didn’t care about me than I found a friend who listened to me and I found out she went hrough that same thing (cutting). I had her to talk to now when I want to cut. Find someone you trust, talk to them.

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vivercree77 offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 16 minutes after post)

I feel the exact same way. I feel like a freak. no one at school talks to me and I feel so alone. All the guys are too buzy screwing the meangirls. I just dont understand. I think im a good person. I know im not hott but I dont think im freakishly ugly. I am nice and i love to helpn people. I believe I am a smart girl but no one cares. The only people who notice me are the bullyies. girls can be sooo mean. they pick on me becuase im 16 and only 4ft ll inches tall. I know that it is weird but just becuase im short doesnt give anyone the right to cutt me down further. I feel so small. I am caught at a crossroads. I want to cutt, i think about it all the time. I would rather feel pain and know that i can heal than to break down and cry. Im also christian, the bible says not to damage the body for the body is the temple of christ. So im screwed. I wouldnt dare tell anyone else though, they would pick on me even more. Call me emo and what not. I cant stand it when people talk about, i hear other girls gossip about how stupid it its. ITS NOT STUPID. it may seem crazy to other poeple but they wont ever know until they feel whats it like to be alone, depressed, scared, tired, and hurt. My view is….if your going to make me hurt, then make the pain real. Emtional pain is the worst pain in the world. I feel as if i cant bare it. I have no advice here, im just glad there is someone out there to whom i can relate. Another thing, i personally think this is stupid too, just read on……I want to cut really bad but im too scared too becuase im scared ill do it wrong and really hurt myself, im scared god is watching me, i dont want my parents to find out, and im scared of the pain. Like, i wanna feel the pain but im still scared of it. do you all think that is stupid? i feel stupid.

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jejs1997 offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Greeley, CO, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (7 hours, 1 minute after post)

“I feel like it means I went through something and it is healed now.”
just explain it in the same way you have here and they might understnad.

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