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I need help with my friend.

She’s one of the cleverest people I know. She often gets times where she won’t say anything much because she feels upset about something. The clever thing does make me feel a bit jealous, but I know that that can’t bother me because everyone is different. I need some advice on how I can cheer her up without being stupid (I do that a lot!)and without getting mad at her for being so moody. Some of my other friends are working with me on cheering her up, but it won’t really work. I know a lot of this stuff probably doesn’t make any sense to you due to the fact that the way I’m writing this is a bit strange, but I just need advice of any kind really.

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WHATABIGNICKNAM offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
GB | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

you dont need brains to be a friend and if you cant think of any smart cleaver things to cheer them up be you self thats why she your friend

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cassiesprayberr offline Unverified User #
Charlotte, NC, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (14 minutes after post)

only a caring wonderful person would even ask this. please do not ever call yourself stupid. nobody is stupid - just learning.

the best thing a person can have when they’re bothered by something is the knowledge that anyone is around who cares and is Willing to listen. being Willing to be a shoulder is all that you can do. then you must let your friend come to her own decision about what is best for her unless of course you think she is in serious trouble then you must let someone know. you cannot make your friend let you share in her troubles but you have already done what she most needs just by caring. and your admission that you are a little jealous is so very wonderful of you. we all struggle with jealousy its a very human emotion but once we can admit it - we are on the road to dealing with it. we all have a wonderful heavenly Father who cares about all of us so if she doesn’t want to tell you about her troubles then pray for her. i think she is very lucky to have you as a friend. keep your head up and know how very valuable you are

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vivercree77 offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

instead of trying to cheer her up and trying to forget about her problems. Ask her whats got down, aks how her day was. Maybe she is depressed or bi polar. you never know until u sit down and have a talk with your friend. explain that you are there for her but it bothers you how she gets so moody. she may not realize it.

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