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I’m sorry about your situation,why what happened?
I think you’ll get through it anyway, you have to live each day and don’t think of bad things, just find new things you can do, organizations you can join, people you can help, and friends come and go, you can make new friends, they can be your new family, and every other problem will become smaller with time when you find some peace…Don’t worry much, worrying about problems never helps, just try to live this moment and forget about past and futur and you’ll find out what you want and where to go…God be with you…and good luck

hey it’s ok. I didn’t fit in my family too. And my life is very much as terrible as yours, my dad has his own family too since he married a another woman. But everything would be better soon, that’s a promise. And most of the problems are solved by itself through time. In the end no one stays with out friends, job or family, and it’s just that some people need more time than others to get those.

I think you can keep yourself really busy by anykind of activity you choose.
I can give you a solution too, just buy a relegious or spiritual book and start reading it. That is better than thinking about your problems. And better than worrying too much.

Sorry to hear you’re going through such a difficult time. I completely understand how you feel (I’m not going to post my life issues here because this is about you but you can feel free to read my posts and know you are not alone). It is hard trying to find someone to talk to when you feel this way.

I think some times when it seems like has completely unraveled, that we have to (1) allow ourselves to feel it and reach out for help - which you have already done; (2) we have to focus on the present (the past can overwhelm us and the future is uncertain; (3) we need to perhaps pick one thing at a time and think about what is in our power to change; and (4) hold on to our faith (how ever we define that individually and connect to our inner strength.

As I go through those hard times, I try to keep in mind that no matter how hard it is for me, there is someone out there going through something worse. Please no that does not mean to find pleasure or joy in another’s pain but it helps to balance us to know that while we feel under water, we may not be quite drowning but someone else is. I have read this statement in other posts and even seen someone respond negatively about it but to share one thing from my life might help you understand this. Six years ago I had a spinal tumor which threathened my life and caused paralysis. I’d always taken the ability to walk for granted and it was overwhelming to lose the use of my legs. Sitting in the hospital, going through so many tests of which some were quite painful and receiving updates from the doctors which were mostly terrible news, I fell into that hole and I could only feel and see the harshness of life. I was unsure how I felt about surviving surgery because of the pain and because the doctors said my paraplegia was permanent and life was going to be much different. The morning after being moved out of ICU, they came back in to put a triple lumen in my subclavian artery. I was tired of pain and felt a bit hopeless about the future yet here was one more difficult experience I was being asked to endure. The nurse aid came in and asked if she could sit beside the bed and watch as she was considering pursuing a bigger career in medicine - she also offered to hold my hand and let me squeeze it as hard as I needed to so I could get through the experience. When they finished the procedure, that young woman told me how strong and brave she thought I was. She told me working in a neurosurgery ward was hard because she saw things she’d never thought existed. Then she told me a story about a gentleman down the hall. He had a brain tumor. The day before, they’d had to drill 8 holes into his skull with a power drill. Then they had to screw a metal appliance to his skull so his body would be stabilized and he wouldn’t be able to move/injury himself. She couldn’t sit with me long after my triple lumen was in because she said the doctor had come in that morning and said they’d done it wrong and they were heading down to undo the apparatus and were going to have to drill 8 new holes and start over.

Understanding something like doesn’t make you feel better, but it helps put life in perspective. And like you, I’ve been feeling like something happened and suddenlyl every aspect of life is a mess - such an overwhelming feeling. You just get so tired, you aren’t sure you can face the day. If you can perhaps make a list of things that can improve your life, it might help to do that and put them in order. Pick something that is easier to handle and might be a quick fix for just one thing that is going wrong. As you start to accomplish success, the load might feel lighter.

I also wanted to share that faith is important but the best person to define that for you is you. People have all sorts of different beliefs and also share some that are common. If you like to read a bible or some self-help or positive book and can focus on that, that is great.

If that doesn’t bring you peace, you can try something that in the past has brought you peace. Some times talking to a friend will help but some times people don’t like to listen to the negatives. I do think it is important to allow yourself to feel it and then figure out one thing that can make your burden ease. Just one step at a time because if you do nothing, it could snowball into this giant, out of control glob that might overcome you.

You might also want to start a journal if you aren’t doing that now. Some times when I have gone back and read what I have written over the last 3 months even, I find that there in my own handwriting are answers. I discover thoughts that I have never had. It is amazing to find that I had that awareness but wasn’t aware because the mind goes into overdrive and you’re disconnected to the important things you need to hear.

I will also share with you in closing this - change is often hard but usually necessary. Some times I have gotten so comfortable with life and things as I have set them up. Then life gives gentle nudges that perhaps I’ve gotten what I needed from a job or relationship or whatever and it is time for change and time for growth. But the comfort feels so warm that I don’t want change. The situation gets harder and harder until their is suddenly a big force that comes in a shakes up my life. Then change is quite painful. But if I can work through it, I always end up in a better place. I learn more about life and myself. I end up happier and I find new qualities in myself that I never knew existed (life overcoming my paralysis which even medicine can’t figure out how that was possible).

I’m sorry that you’re in a situation where everything wants change at the same time and I know how overwhelming that is. So plesae try to just look at one thing that maybe you can do to make you feel better because the better you start to feel, the less you’ll feel all the negative emotions that I know you’re going through. That is what I am doing. Ask for help, learn to accept it and know that sometimes people can’t or won’t help you (some times for reasons you won’t know) but that is okay too because they might not be the best help for you. Know that people care, even strangers - look at how many people have responded to your post. Hang in there Sweetie, looking back on life I can say without the pain we wouldn’t know the joy, without illness we wouldn’t know how great it feels to be healthy and well, and even without heartbreak we’d never experience love and know how wonderful that can be. I’m sure you’ve heard when one door closes, another one opens….or when one door closes, we have to open a window.

Talk to people to help you, ask them to listen and hopefully you will get advice without judgment. Know you aren’t alone. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I hope your burdens will be lightened and peace will enter your life.