Love help: I need advice about my boyfriend. - Help.com

Apologies to giggly_ville, but i truly believe you need to emancipate yourself from this.

A relationship, for its purpose is supposed to bring joy and happiness to yourself and your partner. If the function of your relationship isn’t this you need to consider why it is your there.

Drug abuse is obviously the issue here, and if your honest in saying you love him then the best thing you can do i get him some help. Drug abuse hotlines, community support programs etc. offer mechanisms in which teach you how to cope with a drug affected loved one, aswell as finding the abuser to correct help they need. It sounds drastic, but if you truly love someone you wont let them lead themselve down a path of self destruction. It will be hard but its the only way to stop this problem preventing your from being happy

Until you partner can understand why he is so reliant on drugs, you wont be able to understand this either.

Again, it will be difficult to convince someone reliant on drug to get help. Supportive friends and family can be called upon, but in the end you need to be strong. Not only strong for your partner but mainly strong for your own sanity. if you feel there is truly nothing more you can say or do to make this person realise how harmful his action are to you and especially to himself, then you really do need to leave.

This will be hard to hear, but sometimes the best thing you can do for another person is to let them go. If he continually refuses to activley seek help, or to accept the help you try to provide its clear there is nothing you can do. You need to be strong and let go. Perhaps thats the wake up call he needs.

You will love again. it will be hard, and you will cry and hurt, but theres always someone else out there for you and for him. Dont stay because your scared of not having him there.

“Fear hold close, Love holds dear” Neil Donald Walsch

hope that helps :-I

hi,my boyfriend is a constant drug abuser aswell when he went to prison he told me hed give everything up for me turns out that was just a lie,im pregnant with his child and hes also cheated on me since being out,i cannit go on living like this as everytime im with him im stressed and thats no good for the sake of my baby,it is hard but you have to think is the hearache reall worth it i love my ex so much id walk threw fire for him but its no good he rather take cocaine and ketamine and be messy with his friends,now i say let him carry on because when hes down from his high hel relise that he lost the best thing in his life and his baby,take care sweetheart ull get threw it it just takes time xx

i was in the same position. I dated a guy for 2 years to find out he was an oxycotin addict. he went to rehab and we broke up for a year and i went abroad to clear my head. we ran into each other and got back together. i could tell right away that he was using again and even tho i love him more than myself its better to be alone and miss him from afar than to spend everyday with him wondering why im not a good enough reason to change. it’s been three years for me and i still think about him every day but i’m better alone than with him and you will be too. stay strong