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I have a hard time relating to people.

People just seem to not trust me. I don’t have the best of social skills and some people even find me scary… Sometimes I think I’m an idiot too. I kind of give off that vibe… that I just don’t know anything. I don’t believe this to be true though. I’m in college and I do very well in most of my classes and I also did very well in high school, (high GPA, honors, etc.). So I think there must be something going right up there but something is also going terribly wrong. It’s probably much to do with being such a loner for the majority of my life and never really developing the necessary social skills that I so terribly need. I also often get nervous around many people and, when I’m nervous, I often can’t think of anything intelligent to say and I look retarded (hence, many people think I’m an idiot). I really only started to try and ’shape up’ and get my life in order and improve myself in the last 2 years or so… though I’m not sure really how much progress I’ve made. Not sure what to do… something needs to change.

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dotspot offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

Wow, did I write that? Because I could have, word for word. Only difference is that my academic record isn’t so hot.

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issybelle offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 38 #
Boulder, CO, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

eh, i know what you mean
wish us both luck

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hh offline Unverified User #
US | 9 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Think of how small you are in the grand scheme of things. This will boost your confidence and help you live in the moment and make you more confident. Trust me, this has worked on myself and many others. CARPE DIEM

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mcharris offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Virginia Beach, VA, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Welcome to my life. Im sure “our kind” will be alright people suck anyways always putting you down and stuff. We need positive energy and good atmosphere.

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betta offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Toronto, ON, CA | 8 months, 2 weeks ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

Hey, I feel that way a lot too. Your probably not as different as you think. There are lots of people who don’t seem to quite fit in to everyday social things.

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mikedcastill offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 6 days ago (8 months, 2 weeks after post)

That sounds exactly like me. I have all the smarts and academic skills I need but none of the social skills. We’re similar, eh? :P

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