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I met a boyfriend internationally and my parents don’t approve.

He is of a different culture and background, and my parents being very traditional want me to find someone of my own ethnicity. However, my boyfriend and I love each other very much, and it hurts me that they are so close-minded and won’t even give him a chance. Since when was I living their life? If anything, I am interracial, ethnically diverse and of transnational background. Denying someone because they are ethnically different, is like rejecting myself. I have been raised to be liberal, open-minded and independent, yet when it comes to my relationship, my parents step in and try to stop me. It seems unjust and unfair, yet they are very close to me, and I don’t want to ruin my relationship with them (nor my boyfriend).

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dixegurl6 offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dora, AL, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

so you dating him on the internet

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Help me with: I sent this guy a comment on myspace which of know since i was lil he just got a myspace .
chica3 offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 9 months, 1 week ago (41 minutes after post)

no…I met him while studying abroad, and we dated in his country for 3 months. Now we are continuing to talk on the phone all the time because after I graduate college this quarter, I am going back there for another 3 months to work in global healthcare. I have no idea what’s going to happen after that, but trying to take it one step at a time

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Oh God... offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Langley, BC, CA | 9 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 2 minutes after post)

well you need to NOT care about getting your parents approval…keep a good relationship with them but this matter has nothing to do with them. Live your life and if hes good for you keep it going. throw tradition out the window! i never liked it anyway :)

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Help me with: jobs.
almondjoys offline Verified User (7 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 3 weeks after post)

I think you should talk to your parents about your situation, and let them know how you feel about your boyfriend. They might not approve of your choice, but letting them know how strongly you feel about this person might force them to accept the fact. I am in the same situation as you are in, and know how difficult it can be!

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