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I don’t want to rely on the mirror to define who I am.

I’m sick and tired of this! Ever since I can remember I was determined that I was going to look perfect when I became a teen. Well when I hit 13 I was pretty much the ugly duckling and it devestated me. I made it my goal, or more like obsession to improve myself. So now, at 18, I’ve come a long way from 13, but I still have that awful ugly feeling. Not only that but I feel like I have no personality and I must make up for it by appearance. I’m not sure if through my early teen years I was so consumed by looking good that I’ve forgotten who I really am, or if I just have a personality different from most people but anyway my point is I’m tired of relying on my appearance to define myself. It’s like I can put on the makeup, do my hair, think about plastic surgery and all that, but I will never be good enough. It’s an endless cycle of trying and failing. I’m not saying that I don’t think its important to look my best, its just that when it becomes everything to me, an obsession that I can’t stop, its all so fake and I feel so worthless… Could someone please tell me what I can do to break this?

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kitty.shor offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Chatswood, 02, AU | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (13 hours, 15 minutes after post)

sweetie, I’m in the same boat as you trust me. You’re not fake, wishing and hoping that you will wake up the picture of perfection is normal for chicks our age. It’s the media that etches these stupid false images of beauty into our heads to make us feel that that’s what we need to look like to be loved or liked. unfortunately, because we are so consumed on our beauty we forget how to be smart and how to hold onto friends and even hold a descent conversation.

in the end, as nasty as this sounds… no matter how hot you get, you will never be the hottest chick on the planet!!
Angelina Jolie was rated the sexiest woman on the planet when the truth is I’ve seen other chicks walking down the street that are hotter than her then the next girl to walk down the street is even hotter than that… catch my drift?

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