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daretodream
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Having Trouble Letting Go

This chokes me. You all know how it is. We’re friends, we never went out, but I loved her. I can’t let go.

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circaxxsk8r offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 24 #
Newark, DE, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

same here >_

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A Girl Named... offline Verified User (9 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 9 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

is it love that is returned?

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daretodream offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Chicago, IL, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

No, unfortunately..

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9 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

then you gotta move on, man

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daretodream offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Chicago, IL, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (7 minutes after post)

Like I said, I tried, I just can’t do it

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A Girl Named... offline Verified User (9 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 9 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

if its not returned let it go you dont want to be in one of those awkward scenarios that make you look like a stalker or becoming totally obsessed with her

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daretodream offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Chicago, IL, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (13 minutes after post)

But I can’t just abandon her, I’m still her friend, but I can’t just settle for that

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BrighterBlessing offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Cincinnati, OH, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 10 minutes after post)

I agree, if you are so in love with her that you’re in pain - then tell her how you feel and ask her out. She might feel the same and love that started as friendship can be one of the best kind. You already know a lot about each other. If you doesn’t feel the same, you’re better off figuring out sooner than later whether you can accept that. The longer you hold on to a love that doesn’t love you, the more pain you get. Plus if you hold on to someone and refuse to let go, you’re going to miss an opportunity when someone who is willing/able to love you comes along.

Tell her and see what happens - or walk away. You’ll be better off in the long run. It is also hard to watch someone you’re crazy about be crazy about someone else.

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daretodream offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Chicago, IL, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (19 hours, 32 minutes after post)

Thanks alot for your help people. I’ve come to a conclusion that I’m not leaving her, but I still have something I’d like some input on. I’ll be back here to link to that help question, if it doesn’t already appear under ‘help me with:’

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