Love help: Ive just come home from a sunday lunch with close relatives… and at my wits end - Help.com

either stop spending so much money and attention and food on them or just stop inviting them

my mom recently made dinner for my family, all they do is come, eat and go, no thankyous no nothing and now my mom is getting old and she just collapsed and went to sleep after cooking the last meal and i felt so sorry for her, but what i tell her is that why bother cooking for everyone if they are not at least polite enough to say thankyou, they treat her like she is their slave yet none of them cook nice homemade stuff when they call us over, we normally get smelly pizza or oily takeaway chicken which i end up not eating, just dont make a fuss about cooking them good dinners and stuff, you’ll just get treated like a doormat who cooks like my mom, who is gonna say no to nice delicous food and stuff, they wont stop coming, and neither will they cook it for you coz they obviously dont think you are worth the effort

Some people are naturally good at entertaining. They enjoy it, do it with spirit, and make a big production number out of it. I’m one of those people. Others can barely get together a takeout pizza and soda. But so what? It’s about the company, about being with family, about the conversation. If you seriously think you’ll come away from your relatives’ house hungry, bring a side dish along–something you know you can fill up on if the pickings are slim! Life goes fast, friends move away, relatives die, people tire and get old. Be happy for every moment you can be together, and don’t worry about keeping score.