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Sounds like he needs a break.

Is your friend in lock up? Typically (well, in California) if the word suicide is uttered to a psychologist/therapists, the client is sent to a mandatory 72 hour minimum lock up for observation. If that is the case you don’t need to worry about him ending it… he wont be able to unless he is VERY creative and resourceful.

If he’s not in lock up, he needs to try to connect with someone. What’s he like? Is he spiritual… then a transpersonal counsel would be good. Does he like the quick fix… perhaps a behaviorist… is he contemplative… then a cognitive behaviorist. No matter what type of therapy…some must be given.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

Bad as it may sound, your friend may be feeling worse because he is getting better. That is, he is probably exploring tightly held feelings that he never addressed or shared before, and that’s going to take its toll on him. It takes a lot of time and hard work to get through some of that stuff.

If I were you, I would tell him, “Man, it takes a lot of courage to change and a lot of courage to explore your feelings. I really admire what you are doing, and I know it’s going to be helpful to you in the long run. Keep going. Your friends are pulling for you.”

He’s lucky to have such good friends.

T.

You and your friend needs to set down with his parent and talk things over in detail and try to come up with a solutions to his problems.

get him an account here at help.com. it’ll give him a space where he can rant and vent, it’s informal, and we’re on a peer level with one another here. online is nicely non-threatening and non-exhausting because you can easily avoid awkward/uncomfortable topics and end an intense conversation whenever you want. this can give him a chance to feel like he is in control of his own recovery, instead of having people push him around “forcing” him to try to feel better about himself and prying information from him. after he gets used to talking with some of us here, he might have an easier time opening up to other people face-to-face :)

good luck, and you can recommend any of us to him if he feels like talking! :)