Family help: oh so lately ive been haveing a crap load of problems. - Help.com

Hey! Ok I would love to help you!!!

Mourning is so hard. You don’t have to be so strong. Let some of the emotions out. When your family is mourning sit down and cry with them. Hug them. They will feel so much better that your going through it with them.

How long ago did your grandfather make his transition?

as for your grandpa I am really sorry! I know how you feel! and I know it is hard to be strong but you need to! evry once in a while it is ok to cry secretly in your room or to your mom or something! don’t think bad stuff bout yourself! you are beautiful and don’t go anerexic cuz you are not fat and you don’t need to loseany weight!

Uh how sad is this, life is really, really unfair. I can’t eat anything without feeling guilty either, it’s so confusing, because I’m not even fat.

I’ve not had anyone die in my family before, I cannot imagine how painful it is. But if you get through it, perhaps you’ll be stronger on the other side of it. It is a cliche, I know, but it’s good value advice. Seriously. Talk about your problems and vent, you’ll feel cleaner and lighter, and then it’s easier to move on. I don’t think there’s an easy answer, and if there is I don’t know it, but i really, really hope you’re all right.

Eat whatever you want because in the end of your life your gonna say i deprived myself so much for nothing. I’m still on the same deathbead.

You need to talk with people who have been through this and come through the other end. They can give you advice and help you.

First of all, I offer my condolences to you and your family for your loss. In my own way, I understand what it feels like to lose someone very special to you. I lost my mother when I was 9 and my father when I was 10. Even though I’m 41 now, I just lost one of my best friends at the beginning of February and learned that two other relatives of mine past - one in January and one last week.

When my best friend died, I felt powerless and just wanted to be strong for her family (one of whom is another one of my best friends). I didn’t want to burden them with my feelings or allow them to see me cry because I didn’t want to put my ’stuff’ on them. Even though I always knew that crying never made me weak, instead it has been a healthy way to deal with emotions. I’ve always joked about it by saying, it’s better for me to go ahead and cry than to wind up on top of a building, butt naked with a firearm! LOL

We each experience so many different emotions - none of the good or bad…they just are. And, it’s important that you continue to find ways to deal with yours in healthy ways. This website was a great place for me to “get it all out” to folks who could give me different perspectives while also letting me know I wasn’t crazy for feeling the way I was WHILE also giving me the permission I couldn’t give myself to grieve.

It will get better…I can’t say that you’ll ever stop missing him or that longer down the line you won’t feel sad when you think about him. It’s been over 20 years since I’ve lost my parents and there are certain times when I still feel angry, lost and sad that I don’t have them here with me anymore. However, more often, I have strived to live a life that is very much driven by honoring the dynamic & wonderful people that they were - and that brings me joy to think that they would be please with the tribute of my life that I make in their honor.

With all that being said, I hope you will give yourself permission cry if you need to cry, vent when you need to vent (in a way that is safe for you), laugh as much as possible and don’t damage yourself by not eating. Your grandfather wouldn’t want that.

Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Glad to hear it. I choose to believe that everything in life happens for a reason. If some of the things I’ve gone through can help you, then it just confirms that eventually it’s all for the good!

Take care sweetie,

Newday

exactly! I think that you have too many pessimistic thoughts! you need to be OPTIMISTIC!!!!!

starbuxxl0l wrote:
hey its not as easy as it sounds missy!

l0l i know!!!!