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People are sometimes messed up. Some are good and some aren’t so good, and you just happened to meet one which wasn’t in a very good place. Are you going to let her get to you and admit defeat?

You said that the people on here helped you before. Surely that enough says that there are good people in this world.

I really do hope you can see someone who’ll make you sure of this. If you try to live your life for a person then it will almost always never work, and you need to gain your confidence from within instead of a ‘quick fix’.

well look at it from the other direction , u see if u went out with her most likly she would have cheated on you and stuff , so now you know who she really is , u really saved yourself from a bigger problem ,, remember that their is a special girl for you :)… i use to think girls are stupid and stuff that ( well that’s right but for the case of arguing :D , kidding :P ) then i found out a special girl who wasnt like all the girls , i wanted her she didnt want me ,, and i use to think i lost the only love , the only girl but the truth let it speak out loud , their are many girl who would like to be with ya for who you are , and love you for who you are , their are smart girl , their is that special girl for you…

Dear Valkarma,

How do you know “you’ve gone unstable?” Because the deepest part of yourself know what stability is. The “you” that knows that is all right. Put your focus there.

It’s one person, get over that and find a bigger fish, she doesn’t seem to be worth getting so distressed over it, be patience and you’ll find another… there are a lot more people than just one female.

Here’s something for ya, find out why she isn’t so kind and sweet, than expose her for that. As far as living.. I’m not one to give advice on, live for tommorow in hopes that’ll get better or things will work out… thats what I’ve been doing.

Maybe a reason to live is to pass on your experience and help other people? Prevent others from what you’ve been through.

Maybe what she meant just came out wrong. Someone can’t help not liking the person who wants them, and wanting another person.

I’m sure she didn’t do it to hurt you both, it seems like she just wasn’t thinking. I know you said she was flirting with ur m8, but did she know YOU liked her. It dosn’t sound like she knew that, she can’t be held accountable for things she didn’t know about. Give it some time, continue to be friends and see what happens.

No one who needs it? What do you mean by that?

Some people think lying is so much easier and nicer. I know people like that, who talk to me and when I say I admit something bad or dump someone saying things honestly they tell me I should have lied. In all honesty, it would probably have been nicer a lot of the times.

Watch Forest Gump, even if you’ve watched it before. Watch it again. It’s about accepting what life throws at you. Living your life the best way you can and coming out on top.
If you can find one mention of suicide in it, then come and tell me you are going to commit suicide, if you dont then come and tell me you are never going to contemplate, commiting suicide again. Just realise how long he waited for his angel to come back to him.
Dont answer this with a reply until you have done as I ask.

Valkarma wrote:
but this is completely unlike her. i’ve known her for 6 months, which isnt that long, but all that time i’ve only seen kindness and good from her. no one ever says anything bad about her.
things aint so easy for me to just, ‘get over her’ and ‘there will be someone else’. its not easy for me to fell in love and im not the greatest ‘catch’ in my area.
besides what am i meant to do now? i have no reason to live. i cant find any.

this is why they call love blind :P ,, now it makes more sense :D …

It was all about hope, it was all about hope for his girlfriend. How she used him when it suited, how she left him when she felt like it. He always hoped then one day she was his and then she died. At the end of all this he was needed, to give love to and bring up a young child. His son.

If he had committed suicide, who would have been there fore the woman? Who would have been there for the son?

How do you know in the future that you will not be needed for some one alse.

Stop feeling so sorry for yourself, start helping others. Start right now by doing here on this website. By doing that you will learn that there are other people who need you.

Just to spell it out to you, Forest Gump wasn’t the greatest catch in the area either. That’s why I used him as a role model.

Valkarma wrote:
i dont deserve life. im here crying over something that is all my fault. i bet i’ve caused her so much pain i dont diserve to live.

btw if u forgot it is the other way around she’s the one that stabbed you in the back remember …

first of all it’s not ur fault u just did what u felt is right but she had a change of plans or she lied on you somehow… so it’s better to know her true identity then after you entered a relationship…