Feel help: just wondering…

melt

just wondering…

do you think since this is help.com and we are all essentially a support group for each other that maybe we tend to give biased answers to make the person with the problem feel better?

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ecki.ecki.bor 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

I believe that depends entirely on the situation. There are people around here that do that, I’m sure. But, there are also people who aren’t afraid to constructively critisize others, if the problem merits it. Some people have posts that make me think that the problem is within themselves, and I try to (nicely) tell them that. Unless the person seems really unstable (I’m not sure I’d reply to them, though) I try to keep myself unbiased. I hope this makes sense. My thoughts are feeling extra slippery today.

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Rico 4 #
US | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I just do this to break up my day. Nothing wrong with being biased, its natural. Its just that my bias is the correct bias:)

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melt 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (17 minutes after post)

ecki.ecki.bor wrote:
I hope this makes sense. My thoughts are feeling extra slippery today.

it makes sense. i’ve been told to stop replying to posts for being honest, that i wasn’t helping.

i only ask because i’d posted something as neutral as i could, but at least one person replied, addressing me as if i were a key character. in retrospect, i can see why, but i had hoped that writing it the way i did, people would reply without bias. maybe some did, but i wonder, if one person thought i played a certain role whether those who supported that character also thought it was me and were trying to cheer me up?

Rico wrote:
…my bias is the correct bias:)

amen, brother! :-D

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ecki.ecki.bor 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

Interesting. I’m not sure I entirely understand all that you did and got out of your experiment but I think I get the gist. That IS weird! Unbiased responses are the healthiest, I believe, and if a person really wanted help, they SHOULD try to post as neutral as they could. That may be obvious… but I’ve never actually THOUGHT about that before. Huh.

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vanslagerenlibb #
La Conner, WA, US | 7 months, 3 weeks ago (30 minutes after post)

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Shie 181 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

i personally believe the opinions that i give are stated on living through them myself.. i do not hold back from my answers or comments that i give..

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melt 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

ecki.ecki.bor wrote:
Interesting. I’m not sure I entirely understand all that you did and got out of your experiment

it wasn’t intended as an experiment. i sincerely seek opinions about the problem i presented because, although i am a third party, i am connected to the people involved. in other words, i didn’t identify myself in the story (example: “my brother married a lady who had a son from a previous relationship…”) because i didn’t want to look like i was taking sides because i want to know how other people see things, without being influenced by my (presumed) opinion. (i’m probably making this more confusing)

lil_bit_shi wrote:
i personally believe the opinions that i give are stated on living through them myself.. i do not hold back from my answers or comments that i give..

you know, me too. and i guess it’s true for most people.

i was just thrown off when “anonymous” addressed me as someone in the story that i’m not. maybe i didn’t present it as neutrally as i’d thought.

thanks for your honest answers.

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Shie 181 #
Gloversville, NY, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 4 minutes after post)

you are welcome hun…

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TheAkatsuki10 0 #
Lexington, SC, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 23 minutes after post)

We are here to help each other. I believe that is mankind’s true purpose of existence…..despite the fact I have yet to know what mines is…

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qbnightmare2 0 #
Grand Rapids, MI, US | 7 months, 2 weeks ago (5 days, 17 hours after post)

Yeah I agree with that, if people wanted to hear the truth they wouldn’t get so pissed off when you tell them, totally agree

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