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Wow. That’s quite a fix. Well, the only thing to do is be prepared to explain yourself. Your love life really should be your own issue and, not that I know what kind of person your dad is, I think you should talk to him about how you are now an adult and ask him to let you run your own life. And sorry that you sent it to the wrong address, because that’s slightly awkward. But anyways. You were 14 last time. Now you’re an adult! Stand up for yourself and be able to communicate your views effectively to your father. As for your school stuff… well, if you can, just focus on the things that need your attention most (if you can, in this situation), which classes are most essential. The mix-up will be over soon, just remember that. Try not to get ulcers over it, there are more important things out there! Good luck!

How old is the guy? And you are an adult…talk to your dad before it’s too late.

your 18 you have all the right in the world to go out with warren

just get to the package before your dad gets to it.

y can’t u just cancel the order.

Well you could just say you have no idea who it was that sent it, he’s hardly gonna open any accompanied letter. But really what you should do is just tell him. Might be best not to tell him you’ve met tho.

so just tell your dad if he asks.. that its a birthday present for one of your friends…

~hug~ >.

You say Mom knows but Dad doesnt. Maybe you can ask your Mom for help. Explain to her what you did and why and ask her to help you explain to Dad with you. Or see if maybe she can get to the post before Dad does. I think you should tell Dad. Dont tell him about the meeting - but tell him you’ve found a guy that you love. Also for the homework/classes just sort it all out in to order of importance and start working on it like that. Plan how long to spend on each piece and go for it :)
Sorry you feel like crap - hot cup of coco might help.

Jenn[ilyWjv wrote:
]its already been shipped out, and USPS is not trackable, so there’s no way to stop it or change the shipping address! :(

USPS is trackable if you have a shipping number. If you have a receipt from paying the postage or if you ordered it online and they gave you a confirmation number, you may be able to track it down.

Whose name is on the package: yours or your boyfriends? Perhaps the packaging will not have any indications of the fact that it is a romantic gift (plain brown box???) and you can just tell your dad that you are expecting a package and to leave it unopened in your room until you can open it. Or, if your boyfriend’s name is on it but it is going to your address, tell him there was a mistake and that it was sent by the person with that name, but it is for you.

However, the more lies that you tell your dad, the worse things are going to be when you finally open up and tell him the truth. You said that you met this guy once before. Is it possible that he could arrange to come to your town and meet your dad, so that your dad knows that you have a boyfriend and is able to have his own fist impression of the guy, and then you can tell your dad how you guys met later on when you feel that he has already made up his mind about whether the guy is nice or not.

Jenn[ilyWjv wrote:
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I’m 18 and i shouldn’t be afraid of my own father, but i am .. this sucks!

;) I was scared of my father at your age, too. Your reaction is understandable.

Don’t sweat too much about it, though. It probably won’t play out as bad as you think it will. Focus on the other things and let this come and go as it will. If there’s an argument, then there’s an argument, but you and your father will both move past it eventually.

mondays suck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
nothing can make them better.

Well that’s a lot you have on your plate. I personally did that online long distance relationship stuff and it bombed out every time, so I just kind of gave up. In your case it might work out, who knows. As far as the whole getting him something, I wouldn’t much worry about it. Just say that you bought it for yourself online somewhere and had it shipped to your house because it was cute and you liked it lol. I mean you can come up with something I’m sure. With the “I love you” stuff, just say that you had to get those things with it and again, thought it was cute (girls can get away easily with saying oh! but it was cute!). Might want to take a break from all of this, just sit down, lay back in a relaxing lay-z-boy recliner and watch tv or nap. You’re 18, I wouldn’t be much afraid of your dad unless he actually will kick you out (for his own reasons of course), found out that it never is because you do anything, but because they decide. I mean, he should be considerate to your feelings (I know that most people are not though), but he’s your father. If he doesn’t understand when you tell him about your bf and everything else, then best to not let yourself get upset, because truthfully you’ve done nothing wrong or to be accused of really. Wish best luck in it all. Take care.

Well. You have already heard my view… You should tell your dad you have a boyfriend. When it comes out in the course of the conversation that he is an online boyfriend he will ask if you have ever met this guy. You can now say yes. Offer to let him talk to Warren. Just warn the poor boy first!

Hey.. tell us how it turns out.. okay? if anything.. say you were somewhat lonely and wanted to send yourself something to make you feel better XD

Your 18 now… Tell your dad straight! “Look I’m with this guy whether you like it or not its my life you cant stop me”
It doesnt feel good to have secrets
xxxx

I agree with the tell him straight idea. But, we need to find her a good way to break it to her dad. Yes, she is 18 and old enough. But, she is still living at home and may not have a job. I know my dad well. If I gave him an ultimatum (which I did) his answer would be. “You are an adult. Not grown up. You can do that. I am not stopping you. Just kicking you out.” The ultimatum was a different one then your JJ and I knew what his response was going to be. So, I was ready for it. My mother was shocked as hell when I did not come home for 3 weeks. I came over for dinner and my step dad started screaming at me. The whole “WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN!” routine. I was totally confused. I reminded him that it was his idea I move out. He instantly shut up and look very sheepish. Then very quietly asked where I was living. I hated living in that house and needed to leave. I do not think you hate living at home. So, lets help her find a safe way to tell her dad.

By the way, my step dad and I get on great now that we have not shared a roof in 12 years.

talk to your dad 9AT THE RIGHT TIME) sorry and if he ses the bear just say it was for you, you need some love and support even if you need to give it to yourself. if he ask about warren be honest with him rob:-)

what did ur dad say
was he mad or angry or curious??

well! that is really good.
great.
r u planning on telling him?

Dang, hostility. I don’t know what to say but you dad is a bit edgy. So is he going to help you with the prom arrangements ?

What is your bf’s race?

Now what Jenn ? what about your mom.

Out of curiosity. I don’t think that’s a reason for him to flip out no matter the race.

I don’t think he would do anything. I bet hes just going to display his unhappiness, but I don’t know him as well as you do. That great that your mom is going to such extents. I think it’ll be good.