Love help: Please I need words of encouragement not to call my boyfriend, - Help.com

you already know that you need to get away from him. that means you’re already on the right track. you have the strength inside you to do what you know is right for your boys.
just think, now you’re back on route to freedom.

Your sons are more special than this man. I am a single parent. And if i get married, i would make sure that my kid is treated well. You can’t love a person who does not respect you and any one that you love.

That is why I have made the desicion to leave but it is really hard i don’t know if any of you have been in an abusive relationship but when you have nothing left to give it is hard to find the strength to walk away.

my parents are a long story, but i know what that kind of household is like. i assure you that your boys will thank you for getting them out of that situation.

If you described him as selfish and that he isn’t nice to you then he doesn’t care about you too, be sure of that. Maybe sometimes he tells you nice talk or whatever, but everyone can lie.

Anyway you must ask your kids or think about their opinion and their suffer too. Like would he be nice to them? And how bad would they feel if their mom loves some one who isn’t nice to them!!!

Well if this “alcoholic, not nice person” have a little bit of goodness inside and wants to get back to you, he’ll stop drinking and get back quickly. But you cann’t love a person because “he is not all bad! There are lots af men who are good and those you can care about them more.

I think you must walk away for the sake of your children.

My boys have already expressed to me that fact that they don’t like him at all he has threatened to hit them has called them names has humiliated me let others humiliate me and the reason I stayed as long as I did is because he always made me feel like he was so much better than me through put downs, or pointing out a girl he thought was better looking than me by attacking my self worth, as a mother, as a woman, as a person in general and for a long time I believed him.

So just tell me why do you need our encouragement? You know all the facts and you aren’t confused about it, so do what you have to do and that’s it. No one will blame you for that and you wouldn’t even miss him either!

Because I do doubt myself I wonder was it me is it because I was not good enough will be the prince charming for the next woman? Why won’t he treat me like I treat him.

You know it isn’t you! Well you’ll have your prince charming too one day. It’s better than staying with some one who obviously don’t care about you. And you cann’t find your prince charming if you don’t leave this prince-NOT so charming guy.

i have a friend who seems to be in a similar situation. it seems so obvious to the people on the outside of her troubled relationship what she “should” do. we wondered why she was having so much trouble taking the advice that she would ask us for, and then agree with herself. i came to the conclusion that only SHE knows how much more of it she will put up with before she finds the strength to do something about it. good luck to you.

Sometimes we need to disregard our emotions when making decisions.

The problem is my heart has not caught up to my head. I know that he is not good for me or my boys Iknow he really doesn’t care about any of us but then there is a part of me that keeps trying to make him see me as I am!! It hurts so bad because all he does is out me down and make me feel I am beneath him, like I am not good enough and I can not tellyou how bad it hurts. I have NEVER been anything but good and kind to him why does he treat me like this?

Please do not take it against you. Abuse comes when the other person lets you think that you are not good enough.

The person treats you like crap, does not even like your sons. He does not love you dear. I am sorry but that’s how i see it.:(

I know that in my head but in my heart I just keep thinking if I am pretty enough if I am skinny enough if my house is perfect he will love me if my kids never act out of sorts then he will love them it is exhausting and I NEVER feel like it is enough he always makes me feel as though he is better than me and I never feel loved for who I am at all

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I know that in my head but in my heart I just keep thinking if I am pretty enough if I am skinny enough if my house is perfect he will love me if my kids never act out of sorts then he will love them it is exhausting and I NEVER feel like it is enough he always makes me feel as though he is better than me and I never feel loved for who I am at all

It’s funny because if all people are perfect, then there will be no need to find true love. If a lover can accept or live with the imperfections of his or her partner..that’s LOVE.

Now, I put myself in your bf’s shoes. If i make you feel that I am always better than you, it’s because that’s how i see it..us. It doesn’t mean that I really don’t value our “understanding” but I just don’t like some things about you. I can live with those things FOR NOW!