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I would like to bring something to your attention.

I’m not sure how much you all care, but that’s alright, this is for my benefit really.

Alright… I saw something on TV the other day about Linsday Lohan. I always found her quite annoying, I didn’t like her. Then I saw this and I started to cry. They showed all her worst pictures and little cuts on her wrists. I looked this up and found out her rep had issued a statement saying that she fell in a bush.. I have a hard time believing that. She also “dropped a teacup and cut her leg”…she needed ten stitches. Assuming this is all true, why do we need to know? She also admitted to being bulimic. She has no obligation to tell the media anything. Why is no one looking out for her? Her mum issued a statement, saying in detail what happened with the teacup.. no one believes it…and no one needs to know. No one seems to realize it’s all this being followed by the media, all this unwanted attention causing this. But they keep going.

Britney Spears… perhaps more famous. I do not follow her “story”, but even I know what’s been happening. Why don’t we leave her alone? No one can ever know what she’s been through. But the media portray her a certain way, and like sheep, we cling to eevry word and follow through. Her own parents talk about her. No one really protects her the way she needs protection.

Nikki Grahame… anorexic since the age of seven. Her weight dropped to around 37 pounds after she was twelve. She went into a coma, was forcefed, has never had a period in her life and can never have children. And many people dislike her, thinking they know her, because they saw her on television… granted she has been less publicised than the other two, but no one has any right to judge her.

Overall, I’m scared for these people. Genuinely terrified of what will happen to them. Because I don’t know them. I don’t understand why we know about their problems. Why their representatives issue statements, their parents, everyone. It’s THEIR life, do we really need to know? I don’t think so. Look what our feeding on their problems causes. More problems, disorders, chaos. I have no idea how to phrase how I’m feeling.

Thank you if you read this. I know it was probably not all that interesting, but it really got to me.

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spiritedsoul offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 1 year, 9 months ago (3 minutes after post)

bah its all the media. they know itll get our attention because they want more dosh in their pockets. there wa sone video i saw on youtube of britney spears crying saying she wanted to be left a lone and have more privacy,

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Narcissus offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (4 minutes after post)

i think thats intesting we should but,people will never do so i do hope this will get better

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (5 minutes after post)

spiritedsoul wrote:
bah its all the media. they know itll get our attention because they want more dosh in their pockets. there wa sone video i saw on youtube of britney spears crying saying she wanted to be left a lone and have more privacy,

that’s not just what my post really is about… It’s why their own friends and family don’t protect them. Why WE don’t try and stop it. Why they feel obligated to tell us their problems and what’s happened in the last week or whatever.

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Setto? offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (5 minutes after post)

the media are bastards.
but so are celebrities.

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (7 minutes after post)

do you know a celebtrity personally? Do you know what they go through every day? The only people who make them celebrities are us. So what does that make you? *shrugs* I used to hate all the people I mentioned. I didn’t think I’d ever be defending them. I didn’t know until recently I suffer from the same disorders as some people I used to dislike.

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (11 minutes after post)

We are monsters aren’t we? I never thought I’d say I’m scared for someone I’ve never even spoken to, but I am. I really am.

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spiritedsoul offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 1 year, 9 months ago (17 minutes after post)

well, I try not to worry about what celebrities are doing. I’d rather have a life of my own if i can i can be nosey but overall i feel better off not being involved. what happens in their lives is out of my control.

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (19 minutes after post)

I know, that’s the best thing to do. But I hate how people judge these famous people. The things that happen… I dunno.

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Setto? offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (19 minutes after post)

Queen of Lost Vampyr wrote:
do you know a celebtrity personally? Do you know what they go through every day? The only people who make them celebrities are us. So what does that make you? *shrugs* I used to hate all the people I mentioned. I didn’t think I’d ever be defending them. I didn’t know until recently I suffer from the same disorders as some people I used to dislike.

hahahaha. i don’t make people celerities. when did i do that? i don’t make anybody a celeb. i detest them and the whole stupid scene of making money out of dumb people. i don’t support them.
actually i don’t personally know any, but i never knew George Bush and i still know he’s an *******.

just remember that at ANY point, a music star could stop making records.
a TV star could stop making shows.
they have enough money to get VERY good counseling. they have enough money to disappear to a remote country.

oh, so why don’t they?
maybe because all the media attention is PUBLICITY. and that’s how they make their money.

fair enough, a lot of celebrities are controlled by the companies that own them. but that’s a whole different story.

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Setto? offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (21 minutes after post)

and another thing, only a complete idiot would believe everything they see on TV/in papers/on the net. and that’s all you have to suggest that any of those people even have problems.

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MittensInSummertime offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Setto, it’s funny how you’re saying all these things but you don’t actually know if they’re true. They could be. But it could be a bunch of BS.
You will never truly know. Either of you. But I agree more with Vampy than you. Why not give them the benefit of the doubt? Not everything is always conspiracy theories and lies. You’re just as bad as the person who does believe everything they see.

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Setto? offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (28 minutes after post)

what did i say that was a debatable statement?

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Setto? offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (28 minutes after post)

apart from calling people bastards of course lol.

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ƒ(x)=healberry³ offline Verified User (2 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Bellflower, CA, US | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

I agree Elena, I usually feel bad for those people too. We’re all human and we all deserve dignity and respect, which is why I don’t like how people judge celebrities so harshly. :(

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

I’m glad you agree. I didn’t know I’d be affected so much by it, but I am. Thank you.

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spiritedsoul offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 hour, 41 minutes after post)

I think we get affected by them because thats what the media try to do. they don’t show what we want to see, but what will AFFECT us the most so we buy their stuff because it would get our attention more. It’s not so much about reality, but to try and make customers miserable so they buy their stuff. Many people who work in the media are selfish people who only care about money and couldn’t care less about their customers. screw them.

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 hour, 43 minutes after post)

spiritedsoul.. i understand what you mean.. but seeing someones misery doesnt make me want to buy the magazine, it makes me sick. youre right however when you say “screw them”

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spiritedsoul offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 hour, 54 minutes after post)

ok, it makes you sick, its still a negative reaction.
I think its important to remember people who get involved with this kind of stuff obivously have problems as if they cared bout others then they wouldn’t try to make people upset or get negative reactions for their own profit.

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spiritedsoul offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Sandgate, G5, GB | 1 year, 9 months ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

yep, and screw them.

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downtowndaisy offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (2 hours, 10 minutes after post)

I always wish there was some way I could actually help these poor celebrities get back on their feet. It is very sad to see them so sad, but the reality of it is the people they surround themselves with and the negative energy associated with those people… they need to disappear for a while in order to get back on their feet again.

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bigjoshf offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Hoschton, GA, US | 1 year, 9 months ago (2 hours, 39 minutes after post)

hey when it comes right down to it. all the problems of the world branches off greed And that is something that cannot be elminated

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Times' gone mad offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Silver Spring, MD, US | 1 year, 9 months ago (16 hours, 36 minutes after post)

Celebs make money because they are in the public eye—

Basically if you don’t want to be famous, you have to roll with the punches and keep going…

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (2 days, 18 hours after post)

bigjoshf wrote:
hey when it comes right down to it. all the problems of the world branches off greed And that is something that cannot be elminated

thats true.. albeit a bit sad

SalmonTrees wrote:
Celebs make money because they are in the public eye—

Basically if you don’t want to be famous, you have to roll with the punches and keep going…

some people don’t want to be famous but theyre thrown into it. i agree, a lot of famous people wouldnt be famous if they didnt want to be, but im sure they dont predict their lives will become miserable

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Times' gone mad offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
Silver Spring, MD, US | 1 year, 9 months ago (2 days, 21 hours after post)

Queen of Lost Vampyr wrote:

SalmonTrees wrote:
Celebs make money because they are in the public eye—

Basically if you don’t want to be famous, you have to roll with the punches and keep going…

some people don’t want to be famous but theyre thrown into it. i agree, a lot of famous people wouldnt be famous if they didnt want to be, but im sure they dont predict their lives will become miserable

Like whom? And once they are rich why can’t they just packup their bags and leave, like some famous people that you don’t see in the paper and just kinda disappear…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (3 days, 22 hours after post)

this is the price of being a celebrity. your private life is no longer private, and you mistakes make the evening news. it all depends on how you react to it.

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OliveOil offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 week after post)

I totally agree - it is sad. I have tried to stop reading or buying into anything like that. I see the media made intrigue tempting customers every time I go to the grocery market - on the stands right by the checkout. Instead I try to pick up a National Geographic or a Discover magazine and read about the environment, another country, what is being discovered in space or medicine. It depresses me to read about people who have it all, yet really have nothing… not even love. Sometimes I really think the media likes to focus on these people to keep our minds off of the more important issues or matters in our world. I notice health food stores never carry tabloids - mostly health, yoga, home improvement, craft and exercise magazines. I do think if people weren’t buying into the media circus there wouldn’t be so much of that sort of thing. I think most people can’t help themselves though. Human real life drama or soap operas are particularly attractive to people who have some time on their hands and like a good gossip, want to identify with someone famous or who secretly enjoy seeing someone suffer - the old misery loves company. I think the tabloids help bring out the best and worst in all of us… jealousy, envy, greed, rage, pity, sympathy, compassion, sadness. Its just too bad a Britney Spears’ drama takes more importance than say something educational that may benefit us in the long run.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

It was undeniably true, and i certainly agree on this post. And its true that “What you don’t know won’t hurt you” because something that you say which could mean that if you do not know about a fact or a problem, you do not worry about it or you dont make a fuzz about it.. however, it is exactly opposite of what has been going on in this world. People’s thinking is gradually becoming distorted, they begin to believe that good is bad and bad is good and it really shows on how they conduct their lives. We get to hear such news everyday of our lives… crimes, accident, natural disaster, famine, illness, poverty, political squabbling, media’s propaganda, celebrity gossip and so on… i mean those things bothers us because it is happening but what exactly my point is that, we have to deal our own issues and manage our own business and handle our own individual concerns. It is like, if you are not gonna say something good.. then just dont say anythin! If you cant be of assistance with someone, then why add burden and cause another trouble to somebody else’s life? That’s been going on in all areas of the world it its getting worse as day swiftly passes by. People are trying to live their lives the way they want to and do whatever their hearts’ desires, as if nobody can see us. It’s depressingly sad because it affects not only us but the next generation to come.

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

I’m glad you agree evecasi, and I’m glad you understand what this post is actually about…kind of.. thank you for your reply..

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Queen of Lost Vampyr offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

I agree that talking about them is good, and magazines shouldn’t be quite so negative. I think it stresses famous people out even more if it’s publicised though. Of course an eating disorder is a negative thing, definitely, and yes, they thrive on secrecy, but if it’s out in the open and everyone is saying something about it, it’s more stressful. More stress is likely to keep the disorder going stronger. If magazines could talk to the sufferer themselves and not give an opinion I agree that other sufferers would be more likely to seek help.

(Also, sometimes stars lose weight simply because they want to or because they exercised more, the idea that weight loss eating disorder is disturbing and annoying. Another point…if someone is constantly accused of having an eating disorder, I think they are at least slightly more likely to develop one.)

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