Year help: I just got my labret pierced on the weekend. - Help.com

I understand that, but backing that opinion up is what I need help with. To clarify, my labret is in the centre of my chin. They both know I like piercings, and have a few others, but this will be the most noticeable and will always be on display. They are both baby boomers and so have this hard set opinion that it will affect my image and job prospects negatively.

Another point - I CURRENTLY live on my own. I am moving back home in 3 weeks so will always be around both of them :S

I agree Michael. I am currently working for the government, and have a promotion coming up in a month. I KNOW that my personality and other work traits far outweigh what negative reaction piercings may conjure up. Unfortunately however they don’t see that, and the other problem is that I can’t convey that to them because I don’t have the confidence to back myself up.. so really I just need some advice on how to stay strong to myself, and stand on my own two feet to back up my own decision (which I KNOW has nothing to do with them!)

TJ you hit the nail on the head.. I guess I was trying to convey that with my first post but it didn’t come across as bluntly. It would take me eons to explain all the things I have done in my past that I know have let down my parents - even though I KNOW I am not a bad child, in fact probably better than most. I feel like I owe them a great deal for making me the (proud) person that I am. I just feel like no matter what I do I am continually letting them down, as they often don’t convey pride or pleasure in the things that I do.. My only older brother also often sides with them so I really feel like the black sheep of the family. Mmm. Something to consider I guess, but it’s such a hard area to explore as I don’t even know where to begin!

My biggest worry is that, (because I respect and look up to them so much, and value their advice), if I keep disappointing them they may not be so forthcoming with such advice and care. This has been proven in previous situations where I have made decisions they do not entirely approve of.

TJ, you have a way of putting things so clearly. I really need to commit these sort of things to mind and try and get them across to my parents. I suspect that because I am growing up a lot quicker than my older brother, they are having some difficulty in adjusting to me becoming an adult, as I am too.. This self-discovery is something I have known is coming for a long time, and I am a TON happier know that I was a year ago continually trying to please them. I guess I just need to keep telling myself that I am my own person, yet that doesn’t stop us loving each other. Thanks for your kind advice :)