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I am trying to get my old self-confidence back.

But it is hard when your 23 had to move back home with your parents, only have like 5 friends, still have a year of college left, then probably 2 more for graduate school, got a DWI, and just got dumped by the girlfriend. I’m losing my license for the month of March and only will have a work and school license for the next 2 months. How can I get my old life back? How can I stay positive? How can I get a girl in my circumstances?

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JesusMurphy offline Verified User (6 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 years, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

You have 5 friends? I wish I had 5 friends :(

“”Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson

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JesusMurphy offline Verified User (6 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 years, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

And cmon, is it really so unusual for college kids to be forced back to their parents’ house cause of money?

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Sir Urgdu offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Evanston, IL, US | 5 years, 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

A. Stop Drinking if you’re a drunk
B. Get out in public- possibly read some good books like “the Five People You Meet in Heaven” and do ALOT of thinking in relation to who you think you are…(Do you think you’re a nice person? Would you hang out with yourself if you were someone else?)
C. You need to learn also that money doesn’t grant happiness.
D. Think about it, you seem nice enough to me, and as a guy you seem strong, you’re asking for help, which is hard for most guys to do…

Good luck

-Urgdu

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Catty_Sue offline Verified User (5 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Perth, 08, AU | 5 years, 2 months ago (3 hours, 29 minutes after post)

Hey, guess what? You sound pretty normal for your age group. All the little and big mistakes you are making will be put down to experience which you can turn around to be positive.

I am sure you will find another girlfriend. You found the last one, right?

Two months isn’t long in the scheme of things… compared to a lifetime.

Keep up the studies, you’ve got this far! That’s a big thing to be proud of!

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newday offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Milwaukee, WI, US | 5 years, 2 months ago (3 hours, 36 minutes after post)

It’s funny (not really) but I just posted from the parent perspective of having my 23 year old back at home. His situation is different from yours in some aspect and very similar in others.

My suggestion, which I don’t think my son is hearing, is: One step at a time. Make a plan for what you want to accomplish each day, week, month and let that plan be your guide. Your path may detour as you’re working the plan, however it will come a place that you wouldn’t have know, had you not ventured out with PURPOSE!

I hope you read my post and can give me some feedback. I will keep you in my prayers.

newday

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kerreb offline Verified User (5 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Whitehouse Lower, T1, GB | 5 years, 2 months ago (8 hours, 34 minutes after post)

do daily confirmations if they dont improve yer confidence at least you can have a laugh at what some of the confirmations are

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remonaz offline Verified User (5 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 years, 2 months ago (13 hours, 25 minutes after post)

thanks all, im trying to stay positive and work hard each day to improve my situation, i just dont want to hide in a hole till this all blows over i want to become active in school events, organizations, and in he dating sceen, but im scared of what people will think when they see i dont have a licence or have a breathilizer in my car and live at home. Im not to woried about my future cause I think im on the rigt path, Its ust hard to find people that are understading

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newday offline Verified User (5 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Milwaukee, WI, US | 5 years, 2 months ago (14 hours, 36 minutes after post)

All of us have screwed up at some point in our lives. I believe that if you stay to your goals, the people you need will come to you. Those that would judge you are likely not of the character that would be of value to you right now anyway. I honestly believe that God will bring to you who and what you need to make it through this difficult time. You have nothing to be ashamed of. You’re making steps to create the life you want…THAT, is honorable!

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betta offline Verified User (6 years, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Toronto, ON, CA | 5 years, 2 months ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

hey, count your blessings.

Your parents have taken you in. Five of your friends are still with you. You have 2 months to find a new job.

Sometimes friends come and go. Girlfriends especially. Your going through a rough patch, but you have an opportunity to redefine yourself. You can think about what you want to do now.

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