Love help: ok right im having a baby due on 1st april. - Help.com

Don’t let him come back to you when he gets out. Once he has been out and has proven himself then think about it. But once someone cheats it is likely her will do it again. Why is he in prison. I will not judge him but it is a huge red flag. You say you want the happy family life. Well make sure he the kind of person who can give that to you. Not by his words but by his actions.

Think about what you say that you want a happy family is he going to be a good dad or are you going to have to tell the baby sorry your daddy can’t see you again. Or you can be a very good mommy and love him for the both of you and find someone better

Love as a word is meaningless. Love is action: how he treats you, how considerate he is of you, how he respects you. He may want to change and be the stand up guy, he may even believe it himself. But he has to walk the walk first. Don’t give him an inch until he proves that he has earned the right to be around you and your family.

The challenge of raising a baby without a father is big but not impossible. One purpose in your life right now is to raise a good child. Will the father, in his current situation and frame of mind, help you do that or will he make that more challenging?

I agree with all of the replies here. Its unfortunate that we become so blinded to love, we can never seem to see the seriousness of our partners negative actions. We constantly question ourselves, should I give them another chance, or maybe Im over reacting. To the shock of our family and friends, we put up with some terrible breaches of trust and continue to forgive for things that will obviously be repeated over and over. I wont say its impossible for a cheater to change their ways, some people do end up wanting to quit their dishonesty and cheating, I guess its similar to wanting to quit other negative behaviours like smoking and drinking, but a lot couldnt quit it if their life depended on it. Like the other posters stated, he really needs to prove to you that he can stop cheating, not just talk about it. The only trouble is, now that he has cheated previously, you will always find yourself checking, feeling suspicious, and doubting a lot of the time. Whether or not you can live like that while he is trying to prove himself could put a lot of pressure on you. Just remember, when he cheats, hes not just cheating on you, he is cheating on you and your child. Theres more than one person that will be relying on him to do the right thing. So I wouldnt let little things slide, if he wants you, then he has some hard work ahead of him and some big changes to make.

Hello there, firstly, congratulations on your baby. No matter how you see it, your baby is a blessing. I am tempted to tell you to wait for this man to come back when he is out. But in the other hand, i realize that most of the time, people don’t change.

He has been cheating on you and you know it. And those girls are going to make matters worse not only for you but for the baby. Living a life with many threats is not going to be healthy.

So my advice, don’t wait for him. Find a job, be with your baby. Live free.