Love help: So last week, my online boyfriend of about a year broke up with me. - Help.com

get a new boyfriend.

Hello dear, i feel you and i tell you, you are not the only one who thinks that other people would find it pathetic. :)

Well, online relationships are tricky. It has the same components as any face to face relationships only that you don’t see each other more often than you want to. But this guy could not handle it anymore, or did he not just do anything about the distance? Could it be that his interest in meeting up with you was not that high than expected?

I am sorry that this has happened to you but i feel and understand where those tears are coming from. Loneliness and a little of betrayal knowing that it does not seem to affect him at all.

Take your time, it will heal soon. Get to know other people and be merry knowing someone else, not necessarily getting a new one right away but at least understand that there are some relationships that don’t work but there are that do work. :)

Hang in there.

That sucks a lot, I’m sorry. Look, it’s a crazy world and things happen… you may end up living near him later in life, or ending up together. Think of this as a time to explore other opportunities, and meet other people so that if you do meet again, so to speak, you’ll be ready for it!

Try to keep yourself busy while you’re getting over the hurt. It will get better with time, but try to get out there and do things until it does!

I don’t think you’re pathetic at all! I’ll never understand online relationships as I never had one, but I do know that them ending can be just as hurtful as a face to face relationship. My partner’s previous girlfriend lived in Canada (we’re English) and he travelled 3000 miles to meet her, only for the relationship to break down when they had to go back to just speaking online. It hurt him just as much as if she lived next door.

Think of it as just like a normal break up, with someone you see every day. It hurts just as much and takes the same amount of healing. There is no magical cure for any break up, it just takes time. Don’t try and think of it as greatly different to an every day relationship, it will only hinder your healing.

Hope this helps :)

I’m not going to tell you that he was lying to you, because you haven’t given me a reason to think so. However, I will say this - even if he told you everything he knows about himself and all of it was true, keep in mind that there are many things to know about a person that cannot be communicated in words. Spending time with them and experiencing first-hand how they behave in certain circumstances and react and situations that don’t happen on the internet is a big part of knowing someone. Even the little things like how he moves, the sound of his voice, the way he looks at you… these all are usually a big part of human interaction, especially in a romantic relationship.
I’m not saying you couldn’t love him; I’m saying go out and find a good man you can actually be with where you are, and there is a good chance that it could make your current loss seem like a small interaction by comparison. There’s no better way to get over loss than to truly realize it was never that big of a deal.
Again, I’m not trying to minimalize your pain in the least. Pain is pain. I just hope this is another perspective that might help you.

Let me start by saying i DO understand, I really do. I’m in such a relationship, and I believe its love. I dont know how far you’ve gone, but me and my gf video and voice chat everyday, so a lot of the other comments about voice and being together are nullified to an extent by that. Was it only the distance that was bothering him? Have you tried video/ voice chattin at the same time? It really can make you feel like your together. ME and my gf also watch movies togetehr at the same time, that helps us feel closer as well. If its over for sure, then I offer my sincerest condolences, its an awufl thing to go through.

I’m not going to try to sound like a cold hearted b*tch or anything but hon look at it this way… screen with words! I understand there was another person on the other end but technically it was like a diary that answered.
I met my boyfriend on a video game so I know about online relationships but until you physically meet and decide to have a relationship you can’t really call it a relationship. I’ve talked to people for over a few years and they have asked me to be their girlfriend but I politely declined because i know that we may not meet for a very long time or at all for that matter so what i’m going to tell them i love them over a computer on a daily basis maybe talk to them on the phone wave at them over a webcam and that is to be my relationship. Darlin get real here, not quite sure how old you are but your best bet is get someone you can reach over and touch and give a kiss to.
Online relationships are great if you are going to meet within a few months if not then its honestly more trouble than its worth because there are so many creeps now a days a guy can pretend to be one person but really be some psyco stalker creep that beats and cheats. You need to be careful, the guy sitting next to in the restaraunt could to but my point is internet predators are more likely to strike someone that has online relationships than that guy that is sitting next to you at the bar.

yeah it was online.. but I know you’re going through the same things any person would go through whether their bf was online or not. You’re going to have to get over him like one normally would… to me, the best way to do that is cutting him completely out of your life… loose his#, his email, his myspace or whatever other way you talk to him and don’t talk to him for a really long time. It’s not worth it, and he’s isn’t either…then try to get your mind off him ANY way you can… exercise, a hobby, whatever!