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Wow, I have to commend you for how you’re handling this. You say you don’t want to sound selfish, but you’re not selfish at all. What you’re doing is incredibly selfless.

Clearly, your gf needs some time to think about what she wants and needs right now. You’ve made it clear that you will support her either way, which is more than most people would do.

Still, your feelings are just as important as hers. It’s ok to want to hold onto her, and it’s ok to let her know how much she means to you. Just be honest, and whatever the outcome is, you’ll know that you’ve had your say.

I hope that she sees how much love you have for her.

okay well number im sorry your going through this, it must be hard. number two its really up to your girl to decide things and talk to her and talk it out, if she needs assistance with anything im sure you’ll be there for her.
tell her she needs to get her priorities str8 and needs to choose and stop playing games on both you and the other guy

tell her she needs to discus this with you more or with the other guy more

good luck bro//

i think that if you prove that you are still supporting her through it all, she’ll see past the other guy and everything will be back to same

I’m glad you get my name!
A lot of people are like, “you’re so sweet, you can’t be a monster!”

And I really hope that you don’t. She’s so lucky to have someone as supportive as you in the first place.

You should let her calm down a bit, she may feel overwhelmed by everything.

As for not deserving her, I think everyone feels this way sometimes. Let her know that relationships aren’t about “deserving” other people. We’re just lucky to find people we can love. (I get depressed a lot and feel that way about my bf. So, I’ve heard that speech several times, and it does help)

You are such a wonderful guy , actually I have been through almost the same situation , I think your girlfriend is not so crazy about you as you are crazy about her . you deserve to be loved as much as you love her .

If you stayed with her you would end up getting hurt at the end .

You are so wonderful to be someone’s second best choice .

I know how much pain your are going through now , I’m sorry but you are giving her a very precious gift (your love) but she doesn’t deserve it , I’m sure you will find someone who deserves it .

You are really good guy! I hope you find somebody that is worthy of you.