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I’m falling out of love with my boyfriend.
We have been together for just over a year and it was great to start with but recently it feels like we’re just going through the motions. He has also got quite clingy and possessive lately and he has accused me of cheating on him which I haven’t done. I don’t think I love him anymore but I don’t want to break his heart as I know he still loves me.
I also think I’m in love with a guy from work. He’s a bit older than me but he’s such a nice guy and he’s always flirting with me. He has told me that he and his girlfriend have been having a lot of problems lately and they can’t stop arguing. I don’t want to cheat on my boyfriend and I don’t want this guy to cheat on his girlfriend but I’m finding it so hard to hide my feelings for this other guy from my boyfriend. I’m so confused right now.
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well there is really nothing you can do for the man that has a girlfriend but if you dont love him you shouldnt be with hiom…ya its going to break his heart but its better then leading him on thinking that you love him…. that would hurt him worse…just tell him what you feel… and if he thinks you cheated on him and you didnt then he really doesnt trust you ….you have to have trust to have a relationship… so its better off to be with someone you love and that you both trust each other and are honest then what your in now….
If you don’t love him then break up with him. If you care about him at all you will brake his heart for his own good. He will be hurt, he will even hate you. But you if you care enough about him you will endure the pain of being hated and the cause of his pain.
Hurt him - it’s the only way he can move on with his life and find somebody that actually loves him.
and dude…that other guy… (I’m totally shaking my head at the moment)
There’s a big chance that he’s done this before and probably often… these sound like rehearsed situations on his part.
the main point is though: break up with your boyfriend before you start planning something new with somebody else…at least show him that respect.
Usually, if you are feelin gout of love its because youa re. we tryto reason with ourselves and stay because… hes nice, we’ve been together for a long time, I don;twant to hurt him, Im afraid to be alone or ________fill in the blank. If you honor and respect him and your relationship, you will end htings even if it willbe paiful so that both of you will heal and be free to love again, evenbetter the next time around. Ps be weary of stangers who don;t respect commitments… they will hurt you in the end!
its really hard once this happens because youre relationship will never be the same again youll just always try to be what you were and it begins a constant struggle so say youre goodbyes when you can
Tell him straight how it is. Maybe not the part about the other guy, but definitely don’t keep him hanging in the balance. I know how it feels to be in that position and it’s not nice at all. Tell him straight, but another thing, if I may, don’t leave him wondering. Tell him WHY you don’t love him anymore, what happened to the two of you etc.. Be kind but honest, the key is always honesty. Lies will hurt him even more. But be clear that you’re finished, so he doesn’t try to “win you back”, apologies for the clichÃ©.
Finally, if you can, tell him in person. This will make him feel a lot better, like he hasn’t just been ditched randomly. If you can’t do that, send him an email, this way you can still go into depth and tell him exactly what happened. Two things not to do: phone or text. They suck. Texts will make him feel like you can’t even be bothered even in finishing with him, and he’ll feel like ****. Phone will make him feel very alone. Both the last ones feel more like a dump than a break up, and there is a difference.
Sorry for rabbling on lol. Hope it all goes well for you, it’s really nice to see you care enough to ask this.
Tell Him How You Feel About Him.
See What He Says…??
If He’s Saying Your Cheating On Him And Your Not That Shows You, There Is No Trust In The Relationship, If You Feel Alot for this man at work then go for do what you think best and go,for it at the end of the day it your life you only live once make a good one hunni..xxxx
dont fall for the im having problem with my gf crap! its just a guys way of getting in to ur pants - ive seen it before
im falling out of love with my boyfriend too . my friend says hes selfish . and he is selfish . i dont know what to do . i think i love him but then i dont love him . i dont what to do anymore . but i made up my mind to break up with him . he does everything for me but he treats me like im dumb or something . like i like being with him and all but hes overprotective . i thought he wouldnt be like that . i talked to him yesterday and it didnt go well .
i think you should just break up with him because its not good to leave him hanging thinking that you love him . cause after a while when he finds out its gonna really hurt him . thats what im gonna do :] good luck .
Thats the same way with my new boyfriend. i feel bad because i know that he really likes me. I think that the best way to handle it is to break up with him, but do it like gentley. Any as for the other guy i think you should leave him be until atleast maybe a month so your ex-boyfriend wont be all “I still love you!” on you anymore. ;) good luck. member you gotta make every minute count cause u only live once.
you shouldn’t be in a relationship for a while. let the poor guy go.
Its really hard to tell a guy you dont love him anymore. I’v been threw the same thing and it took me forever to do it. It seriously does hurt worse for him and if you keep putting it off it only makes it harder then it has to be even if it seems like the hardest thing. If you really like the guy with a girlfriend break up with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel ( dont say anything about the other guy) and then we you break up with him talk to the other guy and tell him how you feel and that you would maybe like to start dating and tell him he has to be single first or something along them lines…Hope this helps
I’ve been with my bf for a year nd 4 months nd it was great now I just can’t stand his voice or his kiss. tell him how u feel nd c if there’s nething u guys could change. have him try new things. it’s workin for me. it’s like I fell in live with him all over again. but if u dnt want to just leave him but be gentle.
If he is accusing you of cheating is because something must have happened for him to even consider that. And you are actually flirting and having feelings for someone else while still in a relationship, to me that’s cheating. Once mistrust comes in, love goes out. So my advice: ENDED IT NOW before it becomes more painful for him than it already is. And be clear to him that you are through because if he loves you he won’t let go so easy. So you gotta be firm on that and hopefully you won’t regret it when the guy from work plays you, because that’s what he is doing.
my girlfriend just told me the same thing last night.. i dont know what to think and how to cope with this.. I really dont wanna talk to anyone about it because I just feel ashamed that someone ive been in love with for over a year, no longer has those same feelings for me.. It’s devistating when she says she doesn’t feel the same as when she did in the beginning.. Right now I’m giving her space, not contacting her or trying to go chill with her.. I guess I’m hoping she sees all the good that I did for her, how great and loyal I was to her.. I keep telling myself that if I love her I should just let her free and like the cliche saays: if she comes back then it was meant to be.. But I just dont want to regret in the future of the decisions I make right now.. I dont know what to doooo!! Either give her her space and let her miss me or realize maybe she was right and feels just fine without me.. She says she loves me and cares, but after a year really doesn’t see us going anywhere. Like the spark or flame is no longer litt.. She says she wants to give us a chance, I dunno if I should take the chance.. Why try to bring her back to me if she’s feeling liek this.. but on the other side im going to regret it if I dont try to make her fall in love again.. Im just so confused.. I’m shedding tears writing thisss.. I have to let go…………………………….
oh my god… He is clingy because…. ding ding. he feels you slipping away and he doesnt know that your a fickle girl that likes dudes with girlfriends. (Your co worker). Side note… If that guy is telling you about his problems in his current relationship and your finding it hard to hide your feelings for him… you have issues. think about how she would feel… really. Because someday you WILL be her.
He accused you of cheating because you are probably being distant. If you are questioning your feelings then you are no doubt detached. as a result your attitude and behavior towards him changed and he, being in love with you, noticed it. He is either in “shock/panic” mode or he is insecure.
You cant help the way you feel. He is going to hurt either way. Best to tell him how you feel. even if your confused. If your honest and sincere with him the possibilities are endless for future relations. If you continue what your doing eventually he will get over you and forget you exist. and if you ever cared dont jump in the sack with the D BAG that most prob bangs all his co workers. think about it girl… You dont **** where you eat.
Keep it simple. THE GOLDEN RULE. Just think about how you would feel if you were him.
Never call someone clingy that doesnt know how you feel. If you give him the information he needs he will be able to make a confident decision about his place in the relationship. He may just dump you. wont that just make you happy!
Its so sad.
same situation here..i’m afraid to hurt him…
bunch of ****** hoes
because you gals are *****
Me nd my bf were happily together for a long time(: Then my parents didnt approve of him i guess, nd cut off all my comunication from him, i finally got to talk to him after a long last but we’ve kinda just fallin away from eachother nd went our separates ways with New ppl we’ve met, I noe its not Over yet tho bcuz we still hav the same feelings about eachother nd are not satisfied with this new person we supposably love, I will maby see him this summer tho plz write back to me nd giv me suggestions of wat i can do for us to get back together in the Summer:P
When a man doesn’t want you anymore let him go….You deserve much better than him. We woman are special and should learn to love ourselve….we don’t deserve to through to anyones’ bins.
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