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I’m back(spdreamweaver)& again only for a short time.I still need to study how everything functions on this site so please be patient,ok?
FYI,I have every intention of making a strong attempt @ getting this info to the proper authorities & ASAP but as I said in my 1st.post there have been some unforseen snags in all this & it’s unreal how nothing hasn’t been done yet!
There have been a number of reports to our local CPS agency-I’d guess,possibly 3-4 times already,at least this many. And these took place before my Grandson & myself took our part. I can only give you my own assumption of what could be causing some of these snags. Besides,I began asking close friends on their input & from what all of us could come up with is:
This is a small town where everyone knows(thinks they do!)everyone else’s business. Constant gossip! One major problem(my opinion)is that his step-mother(accused abuser)is a compulsive liar! From a close family friend I learned that she’s been this way since she was very young. That her mother & sister never corrected her when she began this behavior-the family friend said it’s assumed that due to her parents sudden divorce being traumatic for her she was allowed to get away with everything & now she’s an adult who has been lying for so long she doesn’t know how to do any different.
As I said previously,we informed this counselor about her lying & the abuse issues but my intuition tells me after the 2 of us told him about her slapping him in the face every day,several times a day,along with verbal abuse & then me again stressing about her being a compulsive liar…my right to attend these session stopped abruptly,unknown to myself until the last time I’d been asked to take him to an appt. & I was told by the counselor I was restricted from sitting in because he didn’t have any signatures from the biological(my step-son)father.
This was not right because we had been put down by the father-had attended previous appt.’s & then…suddenly it’s no longer there? HELLO? What’s up with that? I know something took place after we spilled our guts! Which I’m very upset about because I took an extra effort to convince our Grandson to PLEASE tell this counselor what she’s been doing. I stressed that just by telling us(his paternal Grandparents)-even though we promised to tell this (SO-CALLED)professional everything as well-which this 7yr.old(then)had been pleading for us to tell. That HE had to be the one to tell as well. It was only himself-the actual person being abused to inform him. Then something would be done!
As I said,nothing got done & I feel horrible because I feel as though I’ve let him down. It took alot for him to do this because of the fear she’s been pumping into him! I cried many times over all of this.
But I feel that maybe this so-called professional-with that small-town attitude-thought this was a mother-in-law/daughter-in-law vendetta-which it is NOT!!! Also,because of this possible theory the counselor took to believeing the step-mother’s lies! That’s my main fear,anyway.
Because of whatever she’s already said to all the Mental Health Dr.’s/therapists about her step-son,he’s been put on a number of very serious psychotropic medications-some have been either stopped or added. And after much research & seeing several documentries discussing pros & cons on young children being prescribed such meds-with follow-ups as they’ve gotten older-what side effects came about? I’m very distressed!
Plus,3yrs. ago I was referred to get counseling @ this same Mental Health establishment & had a couple bad experiences. I ended up firing the 1st. therapist because she wrongly accussed me of “using her” over something I was only telling that happened & was about my Grandson-something this then-future step-mother had told just minutes before my appt. & after I relayed what was told to me(before I discovered about the lying)& immediatly she began-loudly-yelling accusations that I was using her in some way instead of taking care of whatever problem I was having due to the info I’d been told.
You see,I was once employed @ this place 10yrs. before I began this counseling there. I am not a professional but because I was an aide that worked with both menatlly & physically challenged adults, we’d been given the exact same training as the pro’s would get. So,I was fully aware of my rights when she began her false accusations at me & told her so. this was why I fired her-she needed either a much needed very long vacation OR a whole new vocation!
BUT…the 2nd lady I was given? Well,because she began contadicting her advice to me…such as: 1 day she suggested I go 1 avenue to work out my then,issues & when I came to the following session her advice contadicted all she’d said previuosly! I was getting very annoyed & frustrated. So,I then requested,really I just asked if I may be able to get an appt. with their 1 & only psychologist for the 2 county facility. Her response was “NO!” She flat out tells me that this person is too busy for someone such as myself who she felt didn’t have serious issues & that she felt I was only “drug-seeking”!!! I was horrified! This was SO UNTRUE & this was my final session @ this place!
After all of this,I told my then physician everything & he referred me to an independent psychologist. This Dr. proceeded to give what I was informed is a standard test that the majority of these particular Dr.’s have. From the results? Very interesting,I must say! You see,I was sensing something was going on with me & I felt I needed much more intense help especially after being treated as I had.
All I’ll say is,that my feelings were right on. With one serious factor due to my depression being intensified because of the earlier counseling disasters & a number of very serious issues happening within my personal life. The test showed I was border-line suicidal! Which shocked me that this could come out of this testing but it was very true. FYI-I’m no longer feeling this way-thank goodness!
But not because of this particular psychologist,either! After everything was said & done,the tests, & then him telling me the results,HE just up & more or less,dumps me! He had mentioned @ the beginning of the meetings he’d been working with some clients & because of confidentiality issues couldn’t give any details only that because my last(married)name was the exact same as these clients…asked if I happened to possibly be related? After I said no but was aware of these people having the same name…in fact 1 has the exact 1st. & last name as myself but that’s just coinincidence.
From what he did share with me,this other case appeared to be very challenging for him but after he found out I was of no relation…the day of the results-then his reccomendation of him telling my then Dr. for an increase in my anti-depressant-nothing else! Absolutely nothing! No see ya again-no maybe another referral to someone else-nothing! And I was “borderline suicidal? Lets just say once I walked out of that building-I felt worse then I had ever before!
If it weren’t for my own strong constitution & finding myself a new reg. physician who I presently see. If it weren’t for this Dr. I don’t know if I’d even be here to deal with any of this! This is the fine(sarcasm)example of the supposed pofessionals we apparently have in our samll town!
I apologize for getiing carried away with my own issues/venting but i am trying to make a point with all of this,really! Because of limited access to decent help in this area I’m sensing some of this has to do with not being able to get the help we so desperately need for both kids. He has a half sister thru this union of his dad & step-mom. But her issues are totally a whole other ball-game but combined with what he’s dealing with it’s a night mare,to say the least!
Unfortunately,i have to stop & I’m bummed at myself for going on & on & not saying everything I must realte here.Also,because I have to do this when I’m home alone-something I’ll have to explain as well because this is another aspect of this situation. My husband-his Grandfather isn’t as supportive as I’d prefer he’d be & this is because of his own issues. And he’ll be off work for the next 2 days & I doubt I’lll have the space to get back until Sun. But if-by some chance I get some time alone I’ll be cak before then. If not,”see you” Sun. THANK YOU for at least allowing me to vent some of this! God Bless!
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